Sunday, November 21, 2010

My Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?

My wife and I have been married for about 8 months and since even before we were married, she has always suspected me of cheating. I have NEVER cheated on her, nor would I ever consider it. I love her with all my heart and could not find it in myself to ever do anything like that.



Recently, I got a promotion at work, changing my hours to 4am to 1230 pm, this means I would sleep when she is at work, and she sleeps when I'm at work. I don't know if anyone here has ever had a schedule like this, but I find it very difficult to sleep at 3 in the afternoon. So, sometimes I cant sleep till about 8 or 9 at night. She comes home, wondering why I'm still sleeping and when I tell her I couldn't sleep, she automatically assumes I'm cheating on her. I found multiple searches in my browser history of ';How to catch your husband cheating'; and ';How to tell if your husband is cheating';. She makes me sleep on the couch cause she is so angry and suspicious.



I know some of these answers will be, ';sit her down, tell her you love her and only her, and reassure her of this'; Trust me, I've tried this and much much more. I understand she was cheated on in the past and I acknowledge this an have taken this into consideration, but every little thing I do seems to be suspicious to her. If I get a call from a wrong number, she thinks I'm cheating, If someone texts me by mistake, she thinks I'm cheating. I just can't take it. She is treating me like I am a lying cheating bastard and I don't deserve this. I am 99.99% positive she is not cheating on me. I don't want to separate with her cause I couldn't function with out her, but I just can't take it anymore. She is making me suffer for her mistrusting nature.



What the hell do I do?My Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
Well, she needs Psychiatric help. She is insecure, and without help there is not much hope. good luckMy Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
My wife sometimes accuses me, but I deflect, deflect. She's usually way off -- for example, she'll think I'm cheating with the Latina clerk at work when in reality I more so enjoy the blond. She totally doesn't know my tastes!
Here's some options:



Marital counseling...you are going to need another person to drive the point home to her.



Also, you can say to her that it's widely known that when a spouse accuses the other of cheating that 99% of the time it's the accuser that is cheating. Then ask her if she has anything she'd like to share with you...



You could show her this post too...



Good luck.
My ex-wife did that sometimes. I eventually did cheat on her about 15 years into the marriage, but the other 20 years of accusations were bizarre. I considered it abusive.



Either she's crazy - my ex was a borderline - or she's cheating on you and projecting, or both. Or you're cheating and have amnesia about it. There are no good possibilities.
If my wife told me to sleep on the couch over fear that I'm cheating, when I haven't been cheating...I'd tell her that if I sleep on the couch tonight, it will be the last time we ever sleep in the same house again. She is VERY insecure, and you are enabling her by putting up with it. Ultimately, she is afraid that you will cheat and leave, right? Well, tell her that the next time she accuses you of cheating, you are leaving. Put some consequences out there.
You've only been married for 8 months and already your life is a living hell.



You CAN function without her.



You must have known she was mistrustful before you married her... Her fears are irrational and overblown and SHE needs to get into some counselling.



Sit her down and tell her that her insecurity is damaging your relationship and that you have given her no reason to think you might be cheating on her and you expect her to get it together as you will not spend the rest of your life living with someone who cannot acknowledge their own insecurities.
The challenge is that there's really nothing you can do but continue to bring your best. If she continues to come at you like this you may need to consider ending it. Living with a chronically suspicious and untrusting person will really wear you down.
that is becuz she is the one cheating
She's no wife to you. In all probability she's cheating herself, and simply wants to make YOU look as bad as she is for the sake of her own conscience.



I don't think this marriage will last.
Sadly not much you can do. She is insecure about herself and as long as she is, she will feel the need to be told that you are not cheating. If I were you, I would tell her, ';Look, Ive told you over and over again Im not cheating, I have never given you any reason to think Im cheating nor will I ever. If you can not trust in me and our relationship, then you need to help or move out!';....
I had the same issue several years ago. I simply told her to shut the phuck up until she had some proof or I would dump her.( BTW I meant it ! )



That was 7 or 8 years ago , no proof and not a peep out of her since ( about cheating anyway )
I have been in kind of the same situation. kinda.

I work 8am-4pm, my husband works 4am-11am.

I sadly sounded like her, same searches too. I even came home on my lunch hour to see what he was doing.



What worked is that work together on solution.



What worked for us.

We both get up early he gets up at 3am, I get up at 5am.

On his days off we both sleep in. If I work I wake up at 7am instead to get more hours sleeping with him.

He takes a nap if he needs to after work.

After I'm done with work, we spend time together, talk, and take walks (taking walks is the best we really it to just enjoy each other and talk about any problems or just talk)

And we both go to bed around 8:30pm - 9pm.

I think the key is that we both go to bed together.



Try something that works for the both of you.
Tell you you want to exchange phone pin, email password ... etc in order to proof to her that you didn't cheat. If she ever have question, ask you instead of computer, because you will know the true instead of the computer.



Focus on solving her suspicious mind. Whatever she want to know, tell her.

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