I never tell him anything corny like this, but I kind of thought it was necessary since I'm never going to get to see him again.. We have quite a history and we had a lot of drama with our relationship, but I still love him and I know he still loves me after all that we've been through. Does this sound good? Or should I change it?
____, thanks for everything. And by everything, I mean even all the horrible things you've put me through. In the end, it was worth it. You're the one who made me stronger. I know we've been through so much **** together, but I'm glad I met you. You're one of those people that I'm never going to forget. Actually, I couldn't forget you even if I wanted to. Trust me, I've tried. From day one til now, you've always been on my mind. And words can't explain how I feel about you, really. Sometimes it's love, and other times it's hate. I guess it's both.. When I first met you, I never thought you'd be so important to me. Or I never thought I'd end up falling in love with you. I adore your smile, your perfect blue eyes, and your goofyness. You're so silly and I've never met someone who's not afraid to be themselves until I met you. I've always loved you and I know I always will somewhere in the back of my heart. I honestly wish I could stay here so I can straighten things out with you, but I guess that's not going to happen. Just my luck.. Well, I'm glad I met you and I'm so glad I got the chance to call you 'mine'. I loved the way you held me and when I was in your arms, I felt like I had everything I wanted. You're all I ever wanted, and still are. With you, everything just seemed.. right. And without you, the world seemed empty and colorless. You were the reason I got up in the morning and got ready.. You'll always be on my mind no matter what, no matter how far apart we are. One day I'll come back, believe me. Just know that you were the best I ever had and that I love you for who you are. So, never change, ____. Never change.. You're the one who stole my heart, without trying hard. You were the one who broke down the wall I had built up around myself. I let you in, and I knew I'd be able to trust you right away. I still do trust you, and you know everything there is to know about me. I'm not going to regret meeting you, because you are the one who changed me. ____, always know that my heart's always with you. No matter where I go, or no matter where you go. You don't have to love me, but just know and keep in mind that my heart's always with you. And I'm always here if you need me, I'm always willing to help you. You deserve the best of the best and you know that. Never let anyone bring you down, you're perfect just the way you are. I love you, and I always will. Forever and a day. %26lt;3
Sunday, November 21, 2010
I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Seriously.. I'm so boring... I can't be funny... Everytime I try to say something funny, people answer to me seriously... I'm not funny. With my ex girlfriends, they liked me 'cause I was kinda mysterious and looked great... But damn when they realised how boring I am... they quit.
How can I change this? Honestly, I want to be funny ! (But not stupid).
Thanks!I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Just be yurself...everybody aint funny like me lolI'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
It's too late
How can I change this? Honestly, I want to be funny ! (But not stupid).
Thanks!I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Just be yurself...everybody aint funny like me lolI'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
It's too late
How can I discourage Jehovah's Witnesses from ringing my doorbell in the mornings?
I don't want to be mean or anything like that, but they have been ringing my doorbell every weekend around 8am for the past 3 months. I keep telling them that me and my gf don't want to change religions, and please don't come back, but they do. My neighbors tell me the same thing, and that they've told them to ';f off.'; How should I deal with these people?How can I discourage Jehovah's Witnesses from ringing my doorbell in the mornings?
Put an upside down pentagram on the door. Might invite something else you don't want though.How can I discourage Jehovah's Witnesses from ringing my doorbell in the mornings?
Not something I recommend, though it worked for a friend of mine. He answered the door naked. They never bothered him again. Me, on the other hand, will engage them in conversation until THEY get tired of speaking to me. I can out talk a Jehovah's Witness, heh heh.
if you tell them not to come back they put your house number on a list to not call on, but sometimes when the territory gets done again they forget to look at the ';do not call'; list. Witnesses dont usually go to door as early at 8 am, Mormons maybe?
Say you're a witch. Works like a charm :)
Hand them a raw porterhouse and then tell your rottweiler to go get it.
What looks good on a Jehovah's Witness. A Rottweiler.
You can make a nice sign like me.
Please do not ring bell or knock
on door. I have small children
taking their naps. Thank You.
I promise no respectable person would knock. I watched them come to my door read the note and walk away. It works great for any annoying salesperson too.
pitbull!
seriously, ask where their kingdom hall is and call to complain, threatening legal action if they don't back off.
I get rid of them by speaking the gospel truth. They can't hold ground to someone who is well learned of the bible.
I knew a girl who showed up to her door in a bathrobe. She let them in and her husband was watching a hard rock video from Black Sabbath. They took one look at tv and ran out the door as fast as they can.
Hang a satanic pentagram on the door and I'm sure they will leave you alone!
Talk them to death. Don't let them get a word in. Be like Roseanne Bar. That will discourage them from coming back for sure.
I STARTED STUDING WITH JEHOVAHS WITNESSES AND THEIR NOT AS CRAZY AS SOME PPL THINK BUT SOME ARE BY BUGGING LIKE CRAZY CALL THEIR CHURCH AND COMPLAINT ABOUT THEM
Guard dogs, razor wire obstacles and gun towers..
The next time they come ask for their name then call your local kingdom hall and lodge a complaint..
Understand where they are coming from. Outright rejection will not discourage them, because they are trying to teach and ';save'; you. Some of their best converts were people who slammed doors in their faces, so to them your response is encouraging.
Jehovah's Witnesses are good folks wanting to help our world, and they do very good things for others. I personally do not agree with their teachings but do agree with their good intentions to help and would never harm a person of good will.
When they have stopped by my house I got into communication, found out where they are coming from and who they are, told them I like reading the Watch Tower and give them a donation for their good works. I also said we are doing well in life and a pretty happy family, thank you for helping so many people - we are also supporters of freedom of religion and would go down on the mat for their right to practice their own religion.
From this response, they go away pleased that they have helped someone that day, and have received an acknowledgement that makes up for so many rejections. It is a tough job going door to door like that.
Back to your question - try being nice and friendly, you can disagree without being disagreeable. They are not allowed to be friends with non believers, anyway.
Ask them to place you on the ';Do Not Call'; list.
And tell them this will not change in the foreseeable future and not to check back in a year.
If they continue to ring bells
Call the police.
Simply hang a sign up that says ';Please Do NOT ring doorbell'; and take it down when it's a better time to be bothered.
Edited to add: Wow, there are a few sour apples on here! When I was a JW child I was made to go out door to door as early as 7:00 A.M., so no- 8:00 A.M. is NOT an exaggeration! (the earlier you ';start'; your ';field service time'; the earlier you can stop and try to enjoy your day. (Yes, we have to report how many hours are spent telling others about Jehovah) Please disregard all the negative people who are tryign to make you look bad...they are only making themselves and the rest of the JW population look bad. It's a shame, since there are a few really nice folks out there.
ask to be placed on the do not call list thing they have, and hang a no soliciting sign. make sure it is where they can see it. if they knock then you have even more cause for calling the police and can file charges for harassment. it's one thing to come once, maybe twice. but 12 times in a row? that is harassment.
add: it may be true that they don't have their meetings until 9am. i have had a woman come before that though. -but, i invited her back at no specific time so she was just dropping off magazines.
i wonder is it the same person or is it always different people coming to your door? an individual may be super persistent from the group, because normally they wouldn't come back. or, maybe someone in your home has been talking to them -is that possible?
also, it may also be mormons. mormons are usually 2 men in black suits on bikes. JW's are groups of women, men and children all dressed nice but not just in black suits.
You're lying. THAT much is very obvious.
We do not go to people's homes that early in the morning. The earliest anyone might come and knock on your door (or ring your bell) is maybe 9:30. We don't typically have our meetings for the field ministry until at least 9:00 and break out into groups and drive out to the territory by 9:15 or 9:30 (depending on the time of the meeting).
Clearly nobody has been coming to your door and this 'question' is nothing but a rant by someone who just doesn't like Jehovah's Witnesses.
A SIGN ON THE DOOR THAT SAYS
NO JEHOVAHS WITNESSES OR ANY OTHER SOLICITERS......
YOU DISRESPECT THIS REQUEST......I WILL CALL THE POLICE......
THANK YOU.........
IF THEY DONT CARE AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR........GET A CAMERA AND THE LICENSE PLATE TO MAKE YOUR REPORT TO THE POLICE.........
go to this link. print out these questions and paste them to your front door.
http://www.bible.ca/jw-questions.htm here are a few samples
Questions that Jehovah's Witnesses do not like to be asked.
1. If the organization did not actually prophesy the end in 1925 and 1975, then how come so many Witnesses left the faith immediately afterwards? (';They lost roughly three-quarters of the movement between 1925 and 1928, then suffered huge losses after 1975, when the end didn't come as they had implied over and over again,'; said Jim Penton, an ex-Witness who writes entries on Jehovah's Witnesses for the Encyclopedia Americana.)
2. If the Watchtower organization rejects others calling them ';inspired'; yet the Watchtower organization does call themselves ';God's Spirit-directed Prophet'; what is the difference? Is there such a thing as an ';uninspired prophet';? See Organization claims inspiration
3. Has the Society ever taught anything scripturally incorrect? See Prophecy Blunders of the Organization
4. Might the Society be teaching anything scripturally incorrect now?
5. Since the Organization has received ';new light'; regarding the 1914 generation, and completely changed their view on this, does this mean that all the former Jehovah's witnesses who were disfellowshipped years ago for the same view the organization is now teaching will automatically be accepted into fellowship again? Were these Ex-Jw's in fact disfellowshipped for truth and knew things that the governing body did not? See Jw's were disfellowshipped for rejecting generation doctrine
6. Can Jehovah's Witnesses hold and discuss openly with other Jehovah's Witnesses opinions that differ from orthodox Watch Tower doctrine?
7. Can individuals read %26amp; understand the Bible alone, or do they need an organization and it's publications to do so? Click here find the answer!
8. How do you prove from the Bible that 1935 was the year for the selection to heaven stopped due to being filled? What is the difference between a Catholic appealing to ';what the organization tells him'; about December 25 being the date of Jesus鈥?birthday and a Jw鈥?appealing to ';what the organization tells him'; about the date 1935? Is it not hypocritical when you chide the ';poor deluded Catholic'; that his faith cannot find a Bible passage to support it, when the same goes for you and 1935?
9. How do you know that there were any vacancies, if any, in the 144,000 class if Jesus offered this to first century Christians? How can the organization know the exact number of vacancies today without any records from the first century?
10. Why are you called, ';Jehovah's Witnesses'; and not ';Christians';? Since Jehovah's Witnesses appeal to Isa 43:12; 44:8 for scriptural support that they should be called, ';Jehovah's Witnesses'; then what was the ';new name'; prophesied in Isa 62:2? Can't be ';Jehovah's Witnesses';, for God already used it 20 chapters earlier. Could the new name be ';Christian'; after our savior ';Christ';?
11. Why would the name God gave to His people not be ';Christians'; since Acts 11:26 says, ';The disciples were first called Christians in Antioch';? Why is the name ';Jehovah's Witness'; found nowhere in the New Testament, if that is God's divine name for His people under the new covenant? Why would God wait almost 2000 years to suddenly start using the name ';Jehovah's Witness';. Does this mean that first century Christians were not known as Jehovah's Witnesses';?
12. If the name Jehovah is so important, then why is it never used in the entire Greek New Testament? If men edited out the name of God, ';YHWH'; when they copied the New Testament, as only the Watchtower organization claims, then how can we have any confidence in any of the New Testament? Should we discard the New Testament or the Watchtower organization as unreliable?
13. If the name ';Jehovah'; is so important, then why does Acts 4:12 say, ';There is salvation in no one else; for there is no other name [v10 Jesus Christ] under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved';? Would this not have been the logical place for God to have used the name ';YHWH';?
14. What is the correct spelling of God's proper name ';Yahweh'; or ';Jehovah';? If Jehovah's Witnesses maintain that ';Yahweh'; is more proper, why do they misspell it ';Jehovah';? If the name of God is so important, then should you not only pronounce it correctly, but spell it correctly too? Is not spelling more important than pronunciation?
15. Since the Jehovah's Witness organization currently rejects most of the teachings of its founder Charles Taze Russell (who was president of the organization from 1879-1916), and since they also reject ';Judge'; Joseph Franklin Rutherford, who succeeded Russell as president from 1916 - 1942, how can we be sure that in 25 more years, Jehovah's Witnesses won't also reject the current president, Milton G. Henschel (1992 - present), as they did Russell and Rutherford?
16. What kind of confidence can anyone have in an organization that rejected its founder and first two presidents for the first 63 years of its existence? This represents about 53% of the time they have existed!
17. Since the Watchtower organization claims ';apostolic succession'; who was it that ';passed the torch of God's Spirit'; to C. T. Russel when he founded the organization? What was the name of this individual?
18. In the NWT, every time the Greek word ';proskuneo'; is used in reference to God, it is translated as ';worship'; (Rev 5:14, 7:11, 11:16, 19:4, Jn 4:20, etc.). Every time ';proskuneo'; is used in reference to Jesus, it is translated as ';obeisance'; (Mt 14:33, 28:9, 28:17, Lk 24:52, Heb 1:6, etc.), even though it is the same word in the Greek (see Gr-Engl Interlinear). Especially compare the Greek word ';prosekunhsan'; used with reference to God in Rev 5:14, 7:11, 11:16, and 19:4 and used with reference to Christ in Mt 14:33, 28:9, and 28:17. What is the reason for this inconsistency? If the NWT was consistent in translating ';proskuneo'; as ';worship';, how would the verses above referring to Christ read?
19. The NWT translates the Greek word ';kyrios'; as ';Jehovah'; more than 25 times in the New Testament (Mt 3:3, Lk 2:9, Jn 1:23, Acts 21:14, Rom 12:19, Col 1:10, 1Thess 5:2, 1Pet 1:25, Rev 4:8, etc.). Why is the word ';Jehovah'; translated when it does not appear in the Greek text? Why is the NWT not consistent in translating kyrios (kurion) as ';Jehovah'; in Rom 10:9, 1Cor 12:3, Phil 2:11, 2Thess 2:1, and Rev 22:21 (see Gr-Engl Interlinear)?
20. To what was Jesus referring to by the term ';this temple'; in Jn 2:18- 19? See Jn 2:21.
21. If the Holy Spirit is God's impersonal active force, why does he directly speak and refer to himself as ';I'; and ';me'; in Acts 13:2?
22. The NWT translates the Greek words ';ego eimi'; as ';I am'; every time it appears (Jn 6:34, 6:41, 8:24, 13:19, 15:5, etc.), except in Jn 8:58 where it is translated as ';I have been';. What is the reason for the inconsistency in this translation? If ';ego eimi'; was translated in Jn 8:58 the same way it is translated in every other verse in which it appears, how would Jn 8:58 read?
23. In Rev 22:12-13, Jesus Christ, the one who is ';coming quickly';, says of himself, '; I am the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end';. In Rev 1:17-18, Jesus, the one who ';became dead, but, look! I am living forever and ever';, refers to himself as the first and the last. Rev 21:6, in speaking of God, says, ';...I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end ...';. God is also referred to as the ';first'; and the ';last'; in Isa 44:6 and Isa 48:12. How can this be since by definition of these words there can only be one first and one last?
24. Jn 1:3 says that Jesus created ';all things';, but in Isa 44:24, God says that he ';by myself'; created the heavens and the earth and asks the question ';Who was with me?'; when the heavens and the earth were created. How can this be since if Jesus was created by God, then he would have been with God when everything else was created?
25. Col 1:16, in talking about Jesus, says that ';... All [other] things have been created through him and FOR HIM';. If Jesus was Michael the Archangel at the time of creation, would an angel have created all things for himself? Isa 43:7 says God created ';everyone ... for my OWN glory...';.
26. The Watchtower Society teaches that the 144,000 of Rev 7:4 is to be taken literally. If chapter 7 of Revelation is to be taken literally, where then does the Bible say that the 144,000 will come from? (See Rev 7:5- 8).
27. If the soul is the body, why does Jesus make a distinction between the body and the soul in Mt 10:28?
28. The NWT translates Jn 1:1 as ';... and the Word was WITH God, and the Word was a god';. How can the Word (Jesus) be ';a god'; if God says in Deut 32:39, ';See now that I-I am he, and there are NO gods together WITH me ...';?
29. Jesus Christ is referred to as ';Mighty God'; in Isa 9:6 (';For there has been a child born to us, there has been a son given to us ... And his name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God ...';). Jehovah is referred to as ';Mighty God'; in Isa 10:20-21. How can this be if there is only one
Johnathan, I happen to be one of Jehovah's Witnesses and so know that we NEVER knock on anyone's door at this hour! First, most are having breakfast as you are or getting their families up. We meet at 9 am and start preaching at 9.30 am.
If they keep coming it is because your girlfriend must have shown some interest, otherwise, they would not keep going back! I know this because a sister and I were regularly visiting a lady and one time, her husband spoke and said that NEITHER of them wanted to know - yet she was in the background, looking sad and embarrassed and that is because she was interested! We do not go anymore because it would defeat the object.
I do have one question for you: what is it about your religion that keeps you in? Do you like your religion because it fits in with you or do you do it because you genuinely think that you are doing what your Creator wants?
There is going to come the day, when God IS going to intervene and we just do not want people to not know! He asks all christians to do what we are doing otherwise He calls it blood guilty and to be honest, I do not wish for that!
As one of Jehovah's Witnesses for over 50 years, I know that is not true that we would begin calling at 8am. WE are barely alert at 8am.
I have thought though about the fact what we locally consider to be true is not all over the world to be true. Here in the US, we do not call before 9am or later. Perhaps in other parts of the world, this is not true. In parts of Europe, they do not consider having the evening meal before 10pm at night or later. This would be almost unthinkable to most Americans. Anything past 6pm would get to be quite hungry.
Jehovah's Witnesses do go by the local standards at any rate for what is a normal calling time. If you desire something different, tell them what time to call with a note on the door.
First of all, 8am is very early for them to begin their ministry (the door to door) work. They usually have their field service meetings at around 9:00 or 9:15, and start the ministry at around 9:30 or 9:45.
Although some (mainly regular or auxillary pioneers) start earlier, normally between 7:30 or 8am, this is usually when they go ';street witnessing'; or ';informal witnessing'; eg walking through public parks or along the seafront and offering their literature to people.
My mum's a regular auxillary pioneer and she starts her days at 8am sometimes.
Anyway, next time they call, tell them firmly to put you on their ';do-not-call'; list and that they are not to return.
If they still persist, contact the local Kingdom Hall or write them a letter, telling them that you will be considering legal action if they continue to ignore your wishes.
I am studying to be a Jehovah Witness and please read why. This may help you understand why you should listen to them when they come to your door. On any Sunday in the USA you can visit a Kingdom Hall while they are having their service meeting. You will be welcomed like a Rock Star and find yourself enthralled by Love and Friendship. While in the Hall you will be able to hear what the Witnesses learn from the Bible and other publications. Also, you will hear beautiful hymns sung by the congregation from the songbook.
You probably feel a 'void' in your life that you have a hard time handling. A witness can open the Bible and read a scripture that can help.
While sitting in the Hall you won't find anybody passing a donation basket. You won't hear anyone at the podium saying they aren't getting enough money like you hear in other places of worship.
My fiance began learning about Jehovah Witnesses before I met her. Now she has me doing it and I love it, because it filled the void I had. It was a void of Faith. I have learned the Real Truth of Jehovah God and my relationship with people is great now. In addition, my fiance says she trusts me more now and will marry soon.
answer the door nude and invite them in
Pepper spray.
8am is definitely an exaggeration. ';these people'; usually begin the ministry around 10am. the next time someone knocks, tell them you want to be on their do not call list.
First I must say that 8am seems like it would be an exaggeration or made up even. I've grown up around and been of one of Jehovah's Witnesses since i was 15, so, my whole life I've went from door to door and also visited other places where my friends are also JW's, other states in the US, other countries too, even South East Asia and i can tell you it is NOT normal to start going to people's homes before 9. Many don't even meet together to start going preaching until 9:30.
We will talk to people outside of their homes like at bus stops, parking lots and other public places where people are already out before 9am, but the chances of the same person catching you at the same time in those situations are rare unless you have a regular bus schedule for instance.
IF this is not a rant or made up or exaggerated, then simply tell them not to come so early and if that doesn't work you could make a note that no one ring the doorbell before 10 am or whatever. Try to be nice but clear, if you tell them you are not interested the same people shouldn't be coming back to visit again. Also, we do not try to change people's religion. We simply are copying Jesus and the work he did while on the earth, telling people about God and his kingdom from the Bible and let them decide if they want to learn more about what the bible *really* teaches or not.
in the end, if you're respectful but clear, they shouldn't be bothering you.
We usually start our preaching around 9am. We do go around at 8am. We consider that some people are still not awake.
JWs will continue to preach because this what Jesus commanded to his followers (Matthew 28:19-20). We preach not to force people to change their religion. We want people to know about God's Kingdom. In fact this one reason why Jesus was sent here, to preach the good news of the Kingdom. (Luke 4:43)red hair credit repair
Put an upside down pentagram on the door. Might invite something else you don't want though.How can I discourage Jehovah's Witnesses from ringing my doorbell in the mornings?
Not something I recommend, though it worked for a friend of mine. He answered the door naked. They never bothered him again. Me, on the other hand, will engage them in conversation until THEY get tired of speaking to me. I can out talk a Jehovah's Witness, heh heh.
if you tell them not to come back they put your house number on a list to not call on, but sometimes when the territory gets done again they forget to look at the ';do not call'; list. Witnesses dont usually go to door as early at 8 am, Mormons maybe?
Say you're a witch. Works like a charm :)
Hand them a raw porterhouse and then tell your rottweiler to go get it.
What looks good on a Jehovah's Witness. A Rottweiler.
You can make a nice sign like me.
Please do not ring bell or knock
on door. I have small children
taking their naps. Thank You.
I promise no respectable person would knock. I watched them come to my door read the note and walk away. It works great for any annoying salesperson too.
pitbull!
seriously, ask where their kingdom hall is and call to complain, threatening legal action if they don't back off.
I get rid of them by speaking the gospel truth. They can't hold ground to someone who is well learned of the bible.
I knew a girl who showed up to her door in a bathrobe. She let them in and her husband was watching a hard rock video from Black Sabbath. They took one look at tv and ran out the door as fast as they can.
Hang a satanic pentagram on the door and I'm sure they will leave you alone!
Talk them to death. Don't let them get a word in. Be like Roseanne Bar. That will discourage them from coming back for sure.
I STARTED STUDING WITH JEHOVAHS WITNESSES AND THEIR NOT AS CRAZY AS SOME PPL THINK BUT SOME ARE BY BUGGING LIKE CRAZY CALL THEIR CHURCH AND COMPLAINT ABOUT THEM
Guard dogs, razor wire obstacles and gun towers..
The next time they come ask for their name then call your local kingdom hall and lodge a complaint..
Understand where they are coming from. Outright rejection will not discourage them, because they are trying to teach and ';save'; you. Some of their best converts were people who slammed doors in their faces, so to them your response is encouraging.
Jehovah's Witnesses are good folks wanting to help our world, and they do very good things for others. I personally do not agree with their teachings but do agree with their good intentions to help and would never harm a person of good will.
When they have stopped by my house I got into communication, found out where they are coming from and who they are, told them I like reading the Watch Tower and give them a donation for their good works. I also said we are doing well in life and a pretty happy family, thank you for helping so many people - we are also supporters of freedom of religion and would go down on the mat for their right to practice their own religion.
From this response, they go away pleased that they have helped someone that day, and have received an acknowledgement that makes up for so many rejections. It is a tough job going door to door like that.
Back to your question - try being nice and friendly, you can disagree without being disagreeable. They are not allowed to be friends with non believers, anyway.
Ask them to place you on the ';Do Not Call'; list.
And tell them this will not change in the foreseeable future and not to check back in a year.
If they continue to ring bells
Call the police.
Simply hang a sign up that says ';Please Do NOT ring doorbell'; and take it down when it's a better time to be bothered.
Edited to add: Wow, there are a few sour apples on here! When I was a JW child I was made to go out door to door as early as 7:00 A.M., so no- 8:00 A.M. is NOT an exaggeration! (the earlier you ';start'; your ';field service time'; the earlier you can stop and try to enjoy your day. (Yes, we have to report how many hours are spent telling others about Jehovah) Please disregard all the negative people who are tryign to make you look bad...they are only making themselves and the rest of the JW population look bad. It's a shame, since there are a few really nice folks out there.
ask to be placed on the do not call list thing they have, and hang a no soliciting sign. make sure it is where they can see it. if they knock then you have even more cause for calling the police and can file charges for harassment. it's one thing to come once, maybe twice. but 12 times in a row? that is harassment.
add: it may be true that they don't have their meetings until 9am. i have had a woman come before that though. -but, i invited her back at no specific time so she was just dropping off magazines.
i wonder is it the same person or is it always different people coming to your door? an individual may be super persistent from the group, because normally they wouldn't come back. or, maybe someone in your home has been talking to them -is that possible?
also, it may also be mormons. mormons are usually 2 men in black suits on bikes. JW's are groups of women, men and children all dressed nice but not just in black suits.
You're lying. THAT much is very obvious.
We do not go to people's homes that early in the morning. The earliest anyone might come and knock on your door (or ring your bell) is maybe 9:30. We don't typically have our meetings for the field ministry until at least 9:00 and break out into groups and drive out to the territory by 9:15 or 9:30 (depending on the time of the meeting).
Clearly nobody has been coming to your door and this 'question' is nothing but a rant by someone who just doesn't like Jehovah's Witnesses.
A SIGN ON THE DOOR THAT SAYS
NO JEHOVAHS WITNESSES OR ANY OTHER SOLICITERS......
YOU DISRESPECT THIS REQUEST......I WILL CALL THE POLICE......
THANK YOU.........
IF THEY DONT CARE AND KNOCK ON THE DOOR........GET A CAMERA AND THE LICENSE PLATE TO MAKE YOUR REPORT TO THE POLICE.........
go to this link. print out these questions and paste them to your front door.
http://www.bible.ca/jw-questions.htm here are a few samples
Questions that Jehovah's Witnesses do not like to be asked.
1. If the organization did not actually prophesy the end in 1925 and 1975, then how come so many Witnesses left the faith immediately afterwards? (';They lost roughly three-quarters of the movement between 1925 and 1928, then suffered huge losses after 1975, when the end didn't come as they had implied over and over again,'; said Jim Penton, an ex-Witness who writes entries on Jehovah's Witnesses for the Encyclopedia Americana.)
2. If the Watchtower organization rejects others calling them ';inspired'; yet the Watchtower organization does call themselves ';God's Spirit-directed Prophet'; what is the difference? Is there such a thing as an ';uninspired prophet';? See Organization claims inspiration
3. Has the Society ever taught anything scripturally incorrect? See Prophecy Blunders of the Organization
4. Might the Society be teaching anything scripturally incorrect now?
5. Since the Organization has received ';new light'; regarding the 1914 generation, and completely changed their view on this, does this mean that all the former Jehovah's witnesses who were disfellowshipped years ago for the same view the organization is now teaching will automatically be accepted into fellowship again? Were these Ex-Jw's in fact disfellowshipped for truth and knew things that the governing body did not? See Jw's were disfellowshipped for rejecting generation doctrine
6. Can Jehovah's Witnesses hold and discuss openly with other Jehovah's Witnesses opinions that differ from orthodox Watch Tower doctrine?
7. Can individuals read %26amp; understand the Bible alone, or do they need an organization and it's publications to do so? Click here find the answer!
8. How do you prove from the Bible that 1935 was the year for the selection to heaven stopped due to being filled? What is the difference between a Catholic appealing to ';what the organization tells him'; about December 25 being the date of Jesus鈥?birthday and a Jw鈥?appealing to ';what the organization tells him'; about the date 1935? Is it not hypocritical when you chide the ';poor deluded Catholic'; that his faith cannot find a Bible passage to support it, when the same goes for you and 1935?
9. How do you know that there were any vacancies, if any, in the 144,000 class if Jesus offered this to first century Christians? How can the organization know the exact number of vacancies today without any records from the first century?
10. Why are you called, ';Jehovah's Witnesses'; and not ';Christians';? Since Jehovah's Witnesses appeal to Isa 43:12; 44:8 for scriptural support that they should be called, ';Jehovah's Witnesses'; then what was the ';new name'; prophesied in Isa 62:2? Can't be ';Jehovah's Witnesses';, for God already used it 20 chapters earlier. Could the new name be ';Christian'; after our savior ';Christ';?
11. Why would the name God gave to His people not be ';Christians'; since Acts 11:26 says, ';The disciples were first called Christians in Antioch';? Why is the name ';Jehovah's Witness'; found nowhere in the New Testament, if that is God's divine name for His people under the new covenant? Why would God wait almost 2000 years to suddenly start using the name ';Jehovah's Witness';. Does this mean that first century Christians were not known as Jehovah's Witnesses';?
12. If the name Jehovah is so important, then why is it never used in the entire Greek New Testament? If men edited out the name of God, ';YHWH'; when they copied the New Testament, as only the Watchtower organization claims, then how can we have any confidence in any of the New Testament? Should we discard the New Testament or the Watchtower organization as unreliable?
13. If the name ';Jehovah'; is so important, then why does Acts 4:12 say, ';There is salvation in no one else; for there is no other name [v10 Jesus Christ] under heaven that has been given among men, by which we must be saved';? Would this not have been the logical place for God to have used the name ';YHWH';?
14. What is the correct spelling of God's proper name ';Yahweh'; or ';Jehovah';? If Jehovah's Witnesses maintain that ';Yahweh'; is more proper, why do they misspell it ';Jehovah';? If the name of God is so important, then should you not only pronounce it correctly, but spell it correctly too? Is not spelling more important than pronunciation?
15. Since the Jehovah's Witness organization currently rejects most of the teachings of its founder Charles Taze Russell (who was president of the organization from 1879-1916), and since they also reject ';Judge'; Joseph Franklin Rutherford, who succeeded Russell as president from 1916 - 1942, how can we be sure that in 25 more years, Jehovah's Witnesses won't also reject the current president, Milton G. Henschel (1992 - present), as they did Russell and Rutherford?
16. What kind of confidence can anyone have in an organization that rejected its founder and first two presidents for the first 63 years of its existence? This represents about 53% of the time they have existed!
17. Since the Watchtower organization claims ';apostolic succession'; who was it that ';passed the torch of God's Spirit'; to C. T. Russel when he founded the organization? What was the name of this individual?
18. In the NWT, every time the Greek word ';proskuneo'; is used in reference to God, it is translated as ';worship'; (Rev 5:14, 7:11, 11:16, 19:4, Jn 4:20, etc.). Every time ';proskuneo'; is used in reference to Jesus, it is translated as ';obeisance'; (Mt 14:33, 28:9, 28:17, Lk 24:52, Heb 1:6, etc.), even though it is the same word in the Greek (see Gr-Engl Interlinear). Especially compare the Greek word ';prosekunhsan'; used with reference to God in Rev 5:14, 7:11, 11:16, and 19:4 and used with reference to Christ in Mt 14:33, 28:9, and 28:17. What is the reason for this inconsistency? If the NWT was consistent in translating ';proskuneo'; as ';worship';, how would the verses above referring to Christ read?
19. The NWT translates the Greek word ';kyrios'; as ';Jehovah'; more than 25 times in the New Testament (Mt 3:3, Lk 2:9, Jn 1:23, Acts 21:14, Rom 12:19, Col 1:10, 1Thess 5:2, 1Pet 1:25, Rev 4:8, etc.). Why is the word ';Jehovah'; translated when it does not appear in the Greek text? Why is the NWT not consistent in translating kyrios (kurion) as ';Jehovah'; in Rom 10:9, 1Cor 12:3, Phil 2:11, 2Thess 2:1, and Rev 22:21 (see Gr-Engl Interlinear)?
20. To what was Jesus referring to by the term ';this temple'; in Jn 2:18- 19? See Jn 2:21.
21. If the Holy Spirit is God's impersonal active force, why does he directly speak and refer to himself as ';I'; and ';me'; in Acts 13:2?
22. The NWT translates the Greek words ';ego eimi'; as ';I am'; every time it appears (Jn 6:34, 6:41, 8:24, 13:19, 15:5, etc.), except in Jn 8:58 where it is translated as ';I have been';. What is the reason for the inconsistency in this translation? If ';ego eimi'; was translated in Jn 8:58 the same way it is translated in every other verse in which it appears, how would Jn 8:58 read?
23. In Rev 22:12-13, Jesus Christ, the one who is ';coming quickly';, says of himself, '; I am the Alpha and the Omega, the first and the last, the beginning and the end';. In Rev 1:17-18, Jesus, the one who ';became dead, but, look! I am living forever and ever';, refers to himself as the first and the last. Rev 21:6, in speaking of God, says, ';...I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end ...';. God is also referred to as the ';first'; and the ';last'; in Isa 44:6 and Isa 48:12. How can this be since by definition of these words there can only be one first and one last?
24. Jn 1:3 says that Jesus created ';all things';, but in Isa 44:24, God says that he ';by myself'; created the heavens and the earth and asks the question ';Who was with me?'; when the heavens and the earth were created. How can this be since if Jesus was created by God, then he would have been with God when everything else was created?
25. Col 1:16, in talking about Jesus, says that ';... All [other] things have been created through him and FOR HIM';. If Jesus was Michael the Archangel at the time of creation, would an angel have created all things for himself? Isa 43:7 says God created ';everyone ... for my OWN glory...';.
26. The Watchtower Society teaches that the 144,000 of Rev 7:4 is to be taken literally. If chapter 7 of Revelation is to be taken literally, where then does the Bible say that the 144,000 will come from? (See Rev 7:5- 8).
27. If the soul is the body, why does Jesus make a distinction between the body and the soul in Mt 10:28?
28. The NWT translates Jn 1:1 as ';... and the Word was WITH God, and the Word was a god';. How can the Word (Jesus) be ';a god'; if God says in Deut 32:39, ';See now that I-I am he, and there are NO gods together WITH me ...';?
29. Jesus Christ is referred to as ';Mighty God'; in Isa 9:6 (';For there has been a child born to us, there has been a son given to us ... And his name will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God ...';). Jehovah is referred to as ';Mighty God'; in Isa 10:20-21. How can this be if there is only one
Johnathan, I happen to be one of Jehovah's Witnesses and so know that we NEVER knock on anyone's door at this hour! First, most are having breakfast as you are or getting their families up. We meet at 9 am and start preaching at 9.30 am.
If they keep coming it is because your girlfriend must have shown some interest, otherwise, they would not keep going back! I know this because a sister and I were regularly visiting a lady and one time, her husband spoke and said that NEITHER of them wanted to know - yet she was in the background, looking sad and embarrassed and that is because she was interested! We do not go anymore because it would defeat the object.
I do have one question for you: what is it about your religion that keeps you in? Do you like your religion because it fits in with you or do you do it because you genuinely think that you are doing what your Creator wants?
There is going to come the day, when God IS going to intervene and we just do not want people to not know! He asks all christians to do what we are doing otherwise He calls it blood guilty and to be honest, I do not wish for that!
As one of Jehovah's Witnesses for over 50 years, I know that is not true that we would begin calling at 8am. WE are barely alert at 8am.
I have thought though about the fact what we locally consider to be true is not all over the world to be true. Here in the US, we do not call before 9am or later. Perhaps in other parts of the world, this is not true. In parts of Europe, they do not consider having the evening meal before 10pm at night or later. This would be almost unthinkable to most Americans. Anything past 6pm would get to be quite hungry.
Jehovah's Witnesses do go by the local standards at any rate for what is a normal calling time. If you desire something different, tell them what time to call with a note on the door.
First of all, 8am is very early for them to begin their ministry (the door to door) work. They usually have their field service meetings at around 9:00 or 9:15, and start the ministry at around 9:30 or 9:45.
Although some (mainly regular or auxillary pioneers) start earlier, normally between 7:30 or 8am, this is usually when they go ';street witnessing'; or ';informal witnessing'; eg walking through public parks or along the seafront and offering their literature to people.
My mum's a regular auxillary pioneer and she starts her days at 8am sometimes.
Anyway, next time they call, tell them firmly to put you on their ';do-not-call'; list and that they are not to return.
If they still persist, contact the local Kingdom Hall or write them a letter, telling them that you will be considering legal action if they continue to ignore your wishes.
I am studying to be a Jehovah Witness and please read why. This may help you understand why you should listen to them when they come to your door. On any Sunday in the USA you can visit a Kingdom Hall while they are having their service meeting. You will be welcomed like a Rock Star and find yourself enthralled by Love and Friendship. While in the Hall you will be able to hear what the Witnesses learn from the Bible and other publications. Also, you will hear beautiful hymns sung by the congregation from the songbook.
You probably feel a 'void' in your life that you have a hard time handling. A witness can open the Bible and read a scripture that can help.
While sitting in the Hall you won't find anybody passing a donation basket. You won't hear anyone at the podium saying they aren't getting enough money like you hear in other places of worship.
My fiance began learning about Jehovah Witnesses before I met her. Now she has me doing it and I love it, because it filled the void I had. It was a void of Faith. I have learned the Real Truth of Jehovah God and my relationship with people is great now. In addition, my fiance says she trusts me more now and will marry soon.
answer the door nude and invite them in
Pepper spray.
8am is definitely an exaggeration. ';these people'; usually begin the ministry around 10am. the next time someone knocks, tell them you want to be on their do not call list.
First I must say that 8am seems like it would be an exaggeration or made up even. I've grown up around and been of one of Jehovah's Witnesses since i was 15, so, my whole life I've went from door to door and also visited other places where my friends are also JW's, other states in the US, other countries too, even South East Asia and i can tell you it is NOT normal to start going to people's homes before 9. Many don't even meet together to start going preaching until 9:30.
We will talk to people outside of their homes like at bus stops, parking lots and other public places where people are already out before 9am, but the chances of the same person catching you at the same time in those situations are rare unless you have a regular bus schedule for instance.
IF this is not a rant or made up or exaggerated, then simply tell them not to come so early and if that doesn't work you could make a note that no one ring the doorbell before 10 am or whatever. Try to be nice but clear, if you tell them you are not interested the same people shouldn't be coming back to visit again. Also, we do not try to change people's religion. We simply are copying Jesus and the work he did while on the earth, telling people about God and his kingdom from the Bible and let them decide if they want to learn more about what the bible *really* teaches or not.
in the end, if you're respectful but clear, they shouldn't be bothering you.
We usually start our preaching around 9am. We do go around at 8am. We consider that some people are still not awake.
JWs will continue to preach because this what Jesus commanded to his followers (Matthew 28:19-20). We preach not to force people to change their religion. We want people to know about God's Kingdom. In fact this one reason why Jesus was sent here, to preach the good news of the Kingdom. (Luke 4:43)
Why won't anyone answer my question?
I know this is long and ';deep,'; but there has to be someone out there with the time to thoroughly read this and provide an answer (it's related to family issues):
I am a 16-year-old young man living with my two older sisters who are almost double my age in an urban-area. My mother is not on any type of medication or drugs, does not know how to care for herself or me, refuses to work or find a place to live (she currently resides on the street, underground or at homeless shelters, but recently has not gone there).
I have been living with them for about 4 years and within that time I have continuously missed school/classes (truancy) for a non-valid reason, consistently lied to them regarding mostly all matters, made purchases with their credit/debit cards, involved myself with illegal activities such as fraudulent check writing, talking to strangers on the Internet located in other countries such as Nigeria, presumably talked to pedophiles, had a collection of indecent images and films, drew devil-related pictures, came home extremely late, consistently disobeyed them, misbehaved countless times, left them when we would go out to places and in another country, had them continuously worry over me and be punished countless times, had my school guidance counselor persistently involved, had the police involved, left school before my classed would end, pretend I would go to school then come back home, fail all of my classes, not be promoted to the next grade, had my room searched numerous times and threw away much of my items which had cost money, had various items taken away/banned such as cell phones, computers, etc., forged signatures, falsified documents, had them chase me with a scissor (to cut my hair), had them forbade me from doing ';what I want'; and concocting various actions and steps I should do/take in order to somewhat ';help'; or ';change'; my current life/mindset, I also opened bank/credit accounts under my missing-in-action/absent mother's name while she spent/spends most of her time around older drugged-up people, shelters, underground stations, churches, and generally the street.
I am currently having multiple possibilities of being assigned to mental hospital and/or being arrested and sent to a juvenile detention center, which I deserve.
My first sister has a full-time job and is attempting to finish school to receive her BA. She has had to cut back on school, friends and dates to handle me and my problems. My second sister has completed her MA in Psychology, but decided to leave that field which ultimately cost her to land a not-as-high paying job at a local insurance company such as my first sister, but not in the same field. They should not have to deal with these types of problems associated with me. When I was 12, my mother failed to tell us that she had stopped paying the rent for a reason her mind had concocted and police came knocking (and eventually had to pick the lock) on our door and state to us that the landlord had issued an eviction notice. She was not home at the time so me and my first sister had packed up our things and went to sit in the park and eventually my second sister arrived from work to meet us. We eventually met up with our mother who thoughtlessly decided that the best idea was to stay in a homeless shelter at this time. Now, my two sisters had grown up with my mother all their lives and they have lived through various types of abuse from many of my mother's old boyfriends and random men whom she had met over the years before I was born. They decided we should stay in a hotel for the night, which they paid with their credit card and then phoned a few friends to see who we could stay with.
There is much I could go into detail with regarding me, my mothers, and sister's lives and how they all impact me, aside from the world. I'm sure no one wants to hear any of this because we all know people have their own problems or I should seek professional help, which I already have. My main question is how should I go about dealing with things now? What should I do/change? What could help? I feel setting out on my own, preferably in 2 years to avoid complicating my sister's or the lives of anyone else, but now I am not sure if this type of lifestyle can continue even with this day. If anyone would like to talk with me as a friend out of this website you may leave your contact. Thank you for any of your help, if you chose to do so.Why won't anyone answer my question?
I honestly read this whole thing. You obviously don't actually want to change... if you did you would.Why won't anyone answer my question?
Hey.
I would REALLY love to help you.
I love helping people as it is a thing i do....
I am home all day today. Feel free to contact me VIA Email, and i would be more than happy to talk to you...
I read every word in this post, and it seems as if im obligated to help because noone else will.
I have helped MANY people come off drug addictions, suicide and more.
Heres my Mail address....
urbanxdream@aol.com
My name is Timm.
Hope to hear from you soon!
First of all, you're NOT a man. You're 16, a boy. Still growing, immature, not a formed person yet because you obviously make very bad choices.
What's done in the past is done and can't be changed. It's time to step up and assume responsibility for your behaviour and actions.
It doesn't sound to me as though you're capable of living on your own. You can't/won't/fail to follow simple instructions such as get up, have breakfast, go to school, do your homework, stay out of trouble. Real life won't hand you those instructions on a silver platter and no employer is going to hang around and pay you to find yourself when you don't show up for work.
Right now you're at a crossroads but you also have opportunities in front of you. It's up to you to recognize what they are and take advantage of them or not.
When problem solving, your first option is to always do nothing. If you like where you are, who you are, what you are then continue on but it doesn't sound to me as though you do or you wouldn't be posting here. So now you recognize that you need to do something.
You need to take stock of yourself first of all. Forget your life, your circumstances, your background. Take stock of YOU. You are obviously not happy. You're not fulfilled. You're not productive. You take no satisfaction in yourself and your accomplishments.
So look around you. What is offered to you? What is in front of you to use to better yourself and your life?
I see a home with two sisters who care. I see an opportunity at school to learn to be a better person, to gain knowledge, the building blocks to a better future. I see a guidance counselor who is willing to help. I see a boy who willfully neglects himself and those around him for instant gratification and who will head downhill to a very poor future indeed if he doesn't wake up and step up.
Too much info..
Too long to read
Too time consuming..
cut it down to a few short paragraphs and I
bet you have more luck
take care
If anyone needs 'a higher power' in their life, you do. You've experienced
how horrible it can all be, how driven you can feel to try to escape and
there's no escape. You know you want to not make it harder for your
two sisters. And it's clear that it would have been harder on your
than your two sisters...being a boy, and your mom just getting worse
all the time. Less money, more loser boyfriends, more depression,
more despair. A bad environment for sure. A perfect description for
your behaviors. And you'd like this to stop. Prayer. I can't see
how you can stop anything, can you? Really? Start to pray as
if there is a Higher Power, the Universe, God, whatever you
want to call Him/Her or whatever and begin to bring some
balance. Actually, although we're not churchgoers, they
really do help people. If you knew one that wasn't too
high pressure, I think they would help and many are
very supportive and could lead you to take training.
You need training, not school. School doesn't train
for a job. School isn't for everybody. Some people do
better taking apprenticeship, or a short course,
and then be able to get a job. Prayer, if you can.
You don't even have to believe it, or believe in it.
'It' will believe in you.
Well. The first thing I can tell you is that the fact that you're taking responsibility for your own behavior and that you're acknowledging its impact on you life and the lives of your sisters may save your life. Somewhere in this whole mess your sisters have found the fortitude to survive and to try to save you.
Your behavior is clearly a reaction to your mom's lack of parenting. That's not to say that it's not your fault - your sisters weren't parented well either and they made different choices (including to take care of YOU.)
So, here you are. You know your behavior is your responsibility, you know it's messing up your life, and you know it's making your sisters' lives harder too. And you want to change.
The first thing is to absolutely continue with counseling, even if at first you don't think it's helping. Share this with your counselor, and think about sharing it with your sisters too. Use whatever resources you have -- teachers, guidance counselors, your sisters, etc. - to help you set goals for yourself.
You clearly know when you mess up, and probably when you're about to. Sometimes difficult feelings make people want to ';misbehave'; or engage in risky behavior. If you find those feelings coming up, talk to someone (or preferably multiple someones) and ask them to talk you down.
When you do talk to your sisters, try to let them know that you love them and appreciate what they've done for you. Tell them that you really want to start making your life better and want to help them have better lives too.
Think about making a goal to start college in a couple of years. Don't stop getting counseling, because new things are going to come up.
I'd be happy to connect with you separately, but don't want to post a contact here. If you have an idea, let me know.
No one will answer your question because in the title, you don't state what your question is about. Second, your question is so long that no stranger cares that much about you to read your whole life story. That should answer why no one is answering your question. Try shortening it up to a short paragraph and make it a better answer in the title. People are busy and no one cares.
Way too long to bother reading. My guess is, ';A fish.';
You're welcome!
I am a 16-year-old young man living with my two older sisters who are almost double my age in an urban-area. My mother is not on any type of medication or drugs, does not know how to care for herself or me, refuses to work or find a place to live (she currently resides on the street, underground or at homeless shelters, but recently has not gone there).
I have been living with them for about 4 years and within that time I have continuously missed school/classes (truancy) for a non-valid reason, consistently lied to them regarding mostly all matters, made purchases with their credit/debit cards, involved myself with illegal activities such as fraudulent check writing, talking to strangers on the Internet located in other countries such as Nigeria, presumably talked to pedophiles, had a collection of indecent images and films, drew devil-related pictures, came home extremely late, consistently disobeyed them, misbehaved countless times, left them when we would go out to places and in another country, had them continuously worry over me and be punished countless times, had my school guidance counselor persistently involved, had the police involved, left school before my classed would end, pretend I would go to school then come back home, fail all of my classes, not be promoted to the next grade, had my room searched numerous times and threw away much of my items which had cost money, had various items taken away/banned such as cell phones, computers, etc., forged signatures, falsified documents, had them chase me with a scissor (to cut my hair), had them forbade me from doing ';what I want'; and concocting various actions and steps I should do/take in order to somewhat ';help'; or ';change'; my current life/mindset, I also opened bank/credit accounts under my missing-in-action/absent mother's name while she spent/spends most of her time around older drugged-up people, shelters, underground stations, churches, and generally the street.
I am currently having multiple possibilities of being assigned to mental hospital and/or being arrested and sent to a juvenile detention center, which I deserve.
My first sister has a full-time job and is attempting to finish school to receive her BA. She has had to cut back on school, friends and dates to handle me and my problems. My second sister has completed her MA in Psychology, but decided to leave that field which ultimately cost her to land a not-as-high paying job at a local insurance company such as my first sister, but not in the same field. They should not have to deal with these types of problems associated with me. When I was 12, my mother failed to tell us that she had stopped paying the rent for a reason her mind had concocted and police came knocking (and eventually had to pick the lock) on our door and state to us that the landlord had issued an eviction notice. She was not home at the time so me and my first sister had packed up our things and went to sit in the park and eventually my second sister arrived from work to meet us. We eventually met up with our mother who thoughtlessly decided that the best idea was to stay in a homeless shelter at this time. Now, my two sisters had grown up with my mother all their lives and they have lived through various types of abuse from many of my mother's old boyfriends and random men whom she had met over the years before I was born. They decided we should stay in a hotel for the night, which they paid with their credit card and then phoned a few friends to see who we could stay with.
There is much I could go into detail with regarding me, my mothers, and sister's lives and how they all impact me, aside from the world. I'm sure no one wants to hear any of this because we all know people have their own problems or I should seek professional help, which I already have. My main question is how should I go about dealing with things now? What should I do/change? What could help? I feel setting out on my own, preferably in 2 years to avoid complicating my sister's or the lives of anyone else, but now I am not sure if this type of lifestyle can continue even with this day. If anyone would like to talk with me as a friend out of this website you may leave your contact. Thank you for any of your help, if you chose to do so.Why won't anyone answer my question?
I honestly read this whole thing. You obviously don't actually want to change... if you did you would.Why won't anyone answer my question?
Hey.
I would REALLY love to help you.
I love helping people as it is a thing i do....
I am home all day today. Feel free to contact me VIA Email, and i would be more than happy to talk to you...
I read every word in this post, and it seems as if im obligated to help because noone else will.
I have helped MANY people come off drug addictions, suicide and more.
Heres my Mail address....
urbanxdream@aol.com
My name is Timm.
Hope to hear from you soon!
First of all, you're NOT a man. You're 16, a boy. Still growing, immature, not a formed person yet because you obviously make very bad choices.
What's done in the past is done and can't be changed. It's time to step up and assume responsibility for your behaviour and actions.
It doesn't sound to me as though you're capable of living on your own. You can't/won't/fail to follow simple instructions such as get up, have breakfast, go to school, do your homework, stay out of trouble. Real life won't hand you those instructions on a silver platter and no employer is going to hang around and pay you to find yourself when you don't show up for work.
Right now you're at a crossroads but you also have opportunities in front of you. It's up to you to recognize what they are and take advantage of them or not.
When problem solving, your first option is to always do nothing. If you like where you are, who you are, what you are then continue on but it doesn't sound to me as though you do or you wouldn't be posting here. So now you recognize that you need to do something.
You need to take stock of yourself first of all. Forget your life, your circumstances, your background. Take stock of YOU. You are obviously not happy. You're not fulfilled. You're not productive. You take no satisfaction in yourself and your accomplishments.
So look around you. What is offered to you? What is in front of you to use to better yourself and your life?
I see a home with two sisters who care. I see an opportunity at school to learn to be a better person, to gain knowledge, the building blocks to a better future. I see a guidance counselor who is willing to help. I see a boy who willfully neglects himself and those around him for instant gratification and who will head downhill to a very poor future indeed if he doesn't wake up and step up.
Too much info..
Too long to read
Too time consuming..
cut it down to a few short paragraphs and I
bet you have more luck
take care
If anyone needs 'a higher power' in their life, you do. You've experienced
how horrible it can all be, how driven you can feel to try to escape and
there's no escape. You know you want to not make it harder for your
two sisters. And it's clear that it would have been harder on your
than your two sisters...being a boy, and your mom just getting worse
all the time. Less money, more loser boyfriends, more depression,
more despair. A bad environment for sure. A perfect description for
your behaviors. And you'd like this to stop. Prayer. I can't see
how you can stop anything, can you? Really? Start to pray as
if there is a Higher Power, the Universe, God, whatever you
want to call Him/Her or whatever and begin to bring some
balance. Actually, although we're not churchgoers, they
really do help people. If you knew one that wasn't too
high pressure, I think they would help and many are
very supportive and could lead you to take training.
You need training, not school. School doesn't train
for a job. School isn't for everybody. Some people do
better taking apprenticeship, or a short course,
and then be able to get a job. Prayer, if you can.
You don't even have to believe it, or believe in it.
'It' will believe in you.
Well. The first thing I can tell you is that the fact that you're taking responsibility for your own behavior and that you're acknowledging its impact on you life and the lives of your sisters may save your life. Somewhere in this whole mess your sisters have found the fortitude to survive and to try to save you.
Your behavior is clearly a reaction to your mom's lack of parenting. That's not to say that it's not your fault - your sisters weren't parented well either and they made different choices (including to take care of YOU.)
So, here you are. You know your behavior is your responsibility, you know it's messing up your life, and you know it's making your sisters' lives harder too. And you want to change.
The first thing is to absolutely continue with counseling, even if at first you don't think it's helping. Share this with your counselor, and think about sharing it with your sisters too. Use whatever resources you have -- teachers, guidance counselors, your sisters, etc. - to help you set goals for yourself.
You clearly know when you mess up, and probably when you're about to. Sometimes difficult feelings make people want to ';misbehave'; or engage in risky behavior. If you find those feelings coming up, talk to someone (or preferably multiple someones) and ask them to talk you down.
When you do talk to your sisters, try to let them know that you love them and appreciate what they've done for you. Tell them that you really want to start making your life better and want to help them have better lives too.
Think about making a goal to start college in a couple of years. Don't stop getting counseling, because new things are going to come up.
I'd be happy to connect with you separately, but don't want to post a contact here. If you have an idea, let me know.
No one will answer your question because in the title, you don't state what your question is about. Second, your question is so long that no stranger cares that much about you to read your whole life story. That should answer why no one is answering your question. Try shortening it up to a short paragraph and make it a better answer in the title. People are busy and no one cares.
Way too long to bother reading. My guess is, ';A fish.';
You're welcome!
Calling all runners: Healthy meal help?
Hey everyone. I'm 14 years old and I decided to change my lifestyle 3 weeks ago. I am not a beginner runner as I was on the Cross Country team. I gained a little weight since Autumn and I need to lose it, but I have one problem. Calorie intake.
I am 5'3 and weigh about 109 lbs. I have no clue what to eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I need your advice to guide me on what I should eat. Remember that I am still young, I have no experience in cooking. (haha).. If you'd like, please write the recipe and how to cook them too. Sorry for the inconvenience!
Thank you so much. Sorry for the wall of text. :]
I am 5'3 and weigh about 109 lbs. I have no clue what to eat for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. I need your advice to guide me on what I should eat. Remember that I am still young, I have no experience in cooking. (haha).. If you'd like, please write the recipe and how to cook them too. Sorry for the inconvenience!
Thank you so much. Sorry for the wall of text. :]
I binge eat and gain back all the weight over the weekend?
Please don't be too harsh cause I am aware I need to change my eating habits...anyway, I'm 5'2 and 109 pounds. I go the gym almost everyday, but eat horribly. I do pretty well over the week (yogurts and whole wheat bread and some veggies and occassional chocoloate), but I am having problems with binge eating over the weekend. I gain back all the weight I lost during the week and vow never to do it again...it doesn't work. I can see my weight slowly creeping up (I used to weight 105 pounds) and I don't know how to stop this. Any suggestions? Please no rude remarks! I've suffered with anoerixia, purging, and now binge eating so I would welcome any suggestions....I binge eat and gain back all the weight over the weekend?
Here's a way to STOP your binge eating.
If you start to feel an urge to eat all of a sudden (on the weekend), go weigh yourself and WRITE that number (your weight) onto your hand so that it's CLEARLY VISIBLE whenever you feel like grabbing a bite to chew on. Then say to yourself that the number on your hand is your weight right now and you WILL NOT allow it to increase.
It's all down to self control and I think that a visible reminder would be helpful if mental control isn't working that well.I binge eat and gain back all the weight over the weekend?
Eat what you want, when you want.
How about professional help. Seems like you are a compulsive eater, I suffer from the same thing. Also stop weighing yourself, If you look the same in the mirror and your jeans aren't tighter its water weight.
what you need to do is consult a nutritionist because they can create a plan that allows you to eat all your fave foods but in moderation! they can help you overcome your issues and help you to start making healthy decisions! best wishes
you heard of over eaters anonymous?
I think the best thing to do is try to eat a little more during the week and eat more foods that you loke once in a while. If you treat yourself a little more maybe you wont have the need to binge on the weekend.
Well if you are 5'2'; than you are a good weight your weight at that height which I am 5'2'; also is from 105 - 135! SO you are good! I weigh 115 after being 92 lbs and I feel and look great! I was also anorexic!
How freaking old are you? You're complaining about weighing 109 lbs? Please!
I like to eat a lot of small things throughout the day. It curves my appetite a lot better.
Also, If I know i don't want to be eating something, I get rid of it from the house.
I don't think anyone can be rude because you have recognized your eating habits need to change. At least you aren't asking questions like ';Should I throw up to lose weight?'; But yeah small snacks usually do the trick for me.
Bananas actually fill you up a lot. Also, sometimes when I think I'm hungry I'm acutally thirsty.
You aren't really overweight.
I think your biggest issue is that you are too hard on yourself.
Write down an eating schedule and meal plan that you can stick to. It's ok to eat junk as long as it is in moderation.
If you are really are having problems, go talk to a nutritionist who can help you.
I have the same problems. I am about 80 pounds heavier than you are... but I can understand what you are going through! What happens with me is I will loose 5 or so pounds, then I get upset that it isn't going faster, then I binge for a few days, then I gain the 5 pounds back, then I get disgusted and then I go on a diet again. It sucks. It sucks big time.
I would suggest going to therapy. I was going to try it, but then they told me it would be $85 a session!! So if you can afford it, please do it! Other than that I would maybe just keep a journal on what happens when you binge. How do you feel, what are you doing... if you can figure out your triggers than you can try to avoid them or think of another outlet. Like cleaning or doing a hobby.
And by the way you are at a perfectly healthy weight. Just get the binging in check so it doesn't creep up on ya.
Best of luck to you!! Wish me luck too then, OK?
Ok, gaining two pounds its not bad but more than that there is a problem. During weekends eat what you like but in smaller portions and avoid eating after 7, because your body slows down and you burn less calories.
ask your self what happens at week end - enviroment,family,relationship,wrong friends? your right your diet is not good, but you are aware of that so i will not preach.
i would alter my weekend regime, remove the cause, if it is nothing else but boredom then there is a hell of a lot you cab do than binge
gl
5'2'; and 109 lbs is not much. How old are you? Why not eay better on the weekends?
If you are still a teen it is normal to gain weight. I am 5'4'; and 120 lbs. I do not think I am fat and neither do my friends or my hansband. I have three children.
You are going to gain a few and loose a few over a normal week. It is water weight and 100% normal.
Try not to worry about it and watch what you eat and if on the weekends you do not work out at least try to go on a walk or bike ride.
I recomend eating complex carbs and protein over the weekend, that way you can still eat more than usual . Complex carbs will fill you up and speed up your metabolism. With that in mind, you can work on getting back on track.
good luck : - )
Amen, sister. I'm right there with you. For me personally, exercise just doesn't work. I find myself famished after exercise and just want to eat more! And heaven help me if I go out to eat. (I can't say no to desert menus.) The only thing that does work for me is my own cobbled-together set of rules:
1. Eat 1 ';large'; meal per day.
2. Eat 1 smaller meal that is a slim-fast and something like a piece of fruit or chex mix.
3. LISTEN TO YOUR STOMACH - not your mouth. (I always want to taste more food, even if I'm stuffed.)
I'm not suggesting that this would work for everyone. I'm just sharing my experience.
Good luck to you!
If you are going to the gym every day, then you probably aren't in bad shape. Your fitness is not simply a function of your weight and waist line. And if you are putting on muscle mass, then your will gain weight. As for binge eating, I can't help you. You need counseling and maybe someone to coach you. You won't get much help on the Internet.
I understand what your going through and it's difficult. Just don't feel alone because your not, there are plenty of people struggling with the same condition. I would strongly recommend you to visit a nutritionist, as they will assess your diet and help you to incorporate foods that are tasty into your diet but help you to keep a very balanced healthy eating routine!! good luck
I would recommend starting a lifestyle change diet. Meaning, eat a reasonable breakfast, midmorning healthy snack (like fruits and veggies), resonable lunch, afternoon healthy snack, and then dinner. You'll find that you're not getting as hungry as often and then you'll stop overeating. Eat as much fruits and veggies as you want. I've been doing this along with going to the gym and after only two weeks, it's become an easy habit (I used to binge eat all the time and have had trouble with not eating at all) and I have more energy and feel healthier. Here's a sample of my daily food:
Breakfast: 2 slices of Toast with I Can't Believe It's not Butter
Snack: Apple
Lunch: Healthy Choice soup (any flavor, it's not many calories)
Snack: Jell-o Sugar Free Pudding
Dinner: Whatever I want within reason
Snack: Orange
Don't wait until you're starving to eat. Eat as soon as you feel a hunger pang. Also, drink lots of water. If you drink a lot of soda, that could be the culprit as well. This ends up being between 1200-1600 calories a day, but then I go to the gym and hit the elliptical machine for 35 minutes and burn more than 300 calories. I hope this helps. It will boost your metabolism as well and it's not a diet...it's changing the way you eat.
I used to have the same problem as you.. i would workout everyday and really restrict my eating during the week but then i would end up bingeing at the weekend and gaining all the weight back. Then i would get so mad at myself for screwing up my good work so i'd restrict again. Its a very dangerous habit to get yourself into - believe me i started out doing that and im now a full blown bulimic. However, i understand this is not just something you can stop (like some other ignorant people seem to think^^^) as i have been in that position myself and i know its not that simple. I really reccommend that you share your problem with someone you live with because if someone in your house knows it makes it harder for you to binge as they will be aware of it and you'll have less opportunity to binge. Also if someone knows then when you are feeling like you are about to binge you can go and talk to them about it and this will distract you from the urge to binge. If you live alone or you feel you really cant tell anyone you live with or family you should go see your doctor and see if they can help you with this problem.
well its not good to do that in the firstplce. just exercise and eat healthy you are crazy just STOP
Here's a way to STOP your binge eating.
If you start to feel an urge to eat all of a sudden (on the weekend), go weigh yourself and WRITE that number (your weight) onto your hand so that it's CLEARLY VISIBLE whenever you feel like grabbing a bite to chew on. Then say to yourself that the number on your hand is your weight right now and you WILL NOT allow it to increase.
It's all down to self control and I think that a visible reminder would be helpful if mental control isn't working that well.I binge eat and gain back all the weight over the weekend?
Eat what you want, when you want.
How about professional help. Seems like you are a compulsive eater, I suffer from the same thing. Also stop weighing yourself, If you look the same in the mirror and your jeans aren't tighter its water weight.
what you need to do is consult a nutritionist because they can create a plan that allows you to eat all your fave foods but in moderation! they can help you overcome your issues and help you to start making healthy decisions! best wishes
you heard of over eaters anonymous?
I think the best thing to do is try to eat a little more during the week and eat more foods that you loke once in a while. If you treat yourself a little more maybe you wont have the need to binge on the weekend.
Well if you are 5'2'; than you are a good weight your weight at that height which I am 5'2'; also is from 105 - 135! SO you are good! I weigh 115 after being 92 lbs and I feel and look great! I was also anorexic!
How freaking old are you? You're complaining about weighing 109 lbs? Please!
I like to eat a lot of small things throughout the day. It curves my appetite a lot better.
Also, If I know i don't want to be eating something, I get rid of it from the house.
I don't think anyone can be rude because you have recognized your eating habits need to change. At least you aren't asking questions like ';Should I throw up to lose weight?'; But yeah small snacks usually do the trick for me.
Bananas actually fill you up a lot. Also, sometimes when I think I'm hungry I'm acutally thirsty.
You aren't really overweight.
I think your biggest issue is that you are too hard on yourself.
Write down an eating schedule and meal plan that you can stick to. It's ok to eat junk as long as it is in moderation.
If you are really are having problems, go talk to a nutritionist who can help you.
I have the same problems. I am about 80 pounds heavier than you are... but I can understand what you are going through! What happens with me is I will loose 5 or so pounds, then I get upset that it isn't going faster, then I binge for a few days, then I gain the 5 pounds back, then I get disgusted and then I go on a diet again. It sucks. It sucks big time.
I would suggest going to therapy. I was going to try it, but then they told me it would be $85 a session!! So if you can afford it, please do it! Other than that I would maybe just keep a journal on what happens when you binge. How do you feel, what are you doing... if you can figure out your triggers than you can try to avoid them or think of another outlet. Like cleaning or doing a hobby.
And by the way you are at a perfectly healthy weight. Just get the binging in check so it doesn't creep up on ya.
Best of luck to you!! Wish me luck too then, OK?
Ok, gaining two pounds its not bad but more than that there is a problem. During weekends eat what you like but in smaller portions and avoid eating after 7, because your body slows down and you burn less calories.
ask your self what happens at week end - enviroment,family,relationship,wrong friends? your right your diet is not good, but you are aware of that so i will not preach.
i would alter my weekend regime, remove the cause, if it is nothing else but boredom then there is a hell of a lot you cab do than binge
gl
5'2'; and 109 lbs is not much. How old are you? Why not eay better on the weekends?
If you are still a teen it is normal to gain weight. I am 5'4'; and 120 lbs. I do not think I am fat and neither do my friends or my hansband. I have three children.
You are going to gain a few and loose a few over a normal week. It is water weight and 100% normal.
Try not to worry about it and watch what you eat and if on the weekends you do not work out at least try to go on a walk or bike ride.
I recomend eating complex carbs and protein over the weekend, that way you can still eat more than usual . Complex carbs will fill you up and speed up your metabolism. With that in mind, you can work on getting back on track.
good luck : - )
Amen, sister. I'm right there with you. For me personally, exercise just doesn't work. I find myself famished after exercise and just want to eat more! And heaven help me if I go out to eat. (I can't say no to desert menus.) The only thing that does work for me is my own cobbled-together set of rules:
1. Eat 1 ';large'; meal per day.
2. Eat 1 smaller meal that is a slim-fast and something like a piece of fruit or chex mix.
3. LISTEN TO YOUR STOMACH - not your mouth. (I always want to taste more food, even if I'm stuffed.)
I'm not suggesting that this would work for everyone. I'm just sharing my experience.
Good luck to you!
If you are going to the gym every day, then you probably aren't in bad shape. Your fitness is not simply a function of your weight and waist line. And if you are putting on muscle mass, then your will gain weight. As for binge eating, I can't help you. You need counseling and maybe someone to coach you. You won't get much help on the Internet.
I understand what your going through and it's difficult. Just don't feel alone because your not, there are plenty of people struggling with the same condition. I would strongly recommend you to visit a nutritionist, as they will assess your diet and help you to incorporate foods that are tasty into your diet but help you to keep a very balanced healthy eating routine!! good luck
I would recommend starting a lifestyle change diet. Meaning, eat a reasonable breakfast, midmorning healthy snack (like fruits and veggies), resonable lunch, afternoon healthy snack, and then dinner. You'll find that you're not getting as hungry as often and then you'll stop overeating. Eat as much fruits and veggies as you want. I've been doing this along with going to the gym and after only two weeks, it's become an easy habit (I used to binge eat all the time and have had trouble with not eating at all) and I have more energy and feel healthier. Here's a sample of my daily food:
Breakfast: 2 slices of Toast with I Can't Believe It's not Butter
Snack: Apple
Lunch: Healthy Choice soup (any flavor, it's not many calories)
Snack: Jell-o Sugar Free Pudding
Dinner: Whatever I want within reason
Snack: Orange
Don't wait until you're starving to eat. Eat as soon as you feel a hunger pang. Also, drink lots of water. If you drink a lot of soda, that could be the culprit as well. This ends up being between 1200-1600 calories a day, but then I go to the gym and hit the elliptical machine for 35 minutes and burn more than 300 calories. I hope this helps. It will boost your metabolism as well and it's not a diet...it's changing the way you eat.
I used to have the same problem as you.. i would workout everyday and really restrict my eating during the week but then i would end up bingeing at the weekend and gaining all the weight back. Then i would get so mad at myself for screwing up my good work so i'd restrict again. Its a very dangerous habit to get yourself into - believe me i started out doing that and im now a full blown bulimic. However, i understand this is not just something you can stop (like some other ignorant people seem to think^^^) as i have been in that position myself and i know its not that simple. I really reccommend that you share your problem with someone you live with because if someone in your house knows it makes it harder for you to binge as they will be aware of it and you'll have less opportunity to binge. Also if someone knows then when you are feeling like you are about to binge you can go and talk to them about it and this will distract you from the urge to binge. If you live alone or you feel you really cant tell anyone you live with or family you should go see your doctor and see if they can help you with this problem.
well its not good to do that in the firstplce. just exercise and eat healthy you are crazy just STOP
Need a camera down my throat and wondered how much it hurts?
I have had voice change for the past 5 months,i am the biggest wimp ever when it comes to doctors so i only actually saw one last week,he has referred me to ENT to have a camera down my throat to inspect my larynx for damage or change.
I am 33 years old and a smoker,i have also terribly abused my voice over the past 6 months with singing when i was unwell and singing out of my range,i know this is all my own fault but admit i am terrified of this procedure,i am praying i have nodules because although i know they are not great news it is better than cancer.
Does anyone have experience of this? How painful is this procedure and how long does the examination take?
Also does anyone have experience of nodules caused by vocal abuse or any other throat problems caused by that? If so could you share them please?Need a camera down my throat and wondered how much it hurts?
No it wont hurt much.
They will numb your throat before they put it inside.
You wont feel pain at all.
I had it done once.
I am 33 years old and a smoker,i have also terribly abused my voice over the past 6 months with singing when i was unwell and singing out of my range,i know this is all my own fault but admit i am terrified of this procedure,i am praying i have nodules because although i know they are not great news it is better than cancer.
Does anyone have experience of this? How painful is this procedure and how long does the examination take?
Also does anyone have experience of nodules caused by vocal abuse or any other throat problems caused by that? If so could you share them please?Need a camera down my throat and wondered how much it hurts?
No it wont hurt much.
They will numb your throat before they put it inside.
You wont feel pain at all.
I had it done once.
How do I keep the settings after I show hidden files on my PC?
I have a Gateway Windows XP PC and I keep trying to save my changes after I click the ';Show hidden files'; box, but it never saves. I click ';apply';, ';ok';. Still.. Nothing. Can someone please help me? I've had this problem for so long, and I need an answer. No immature answers please.How do I keep the settings after I show hidden files on my PC?
There is no 'apply' on the show hidden file options. But you must click on the 'ok' radio button.
You have to change the file attributes to save your files. Go to the help files in your particular windows and it will take you through the process.
There is no 'apply' on the show hidden file options. But you must click on the 'ok' radio button.
You have to change the file attributes to save your files. Go to the help files in your particular windows and it will take you through the process.
How does it feel to be skinny?
I have been fat all my life, anyway I am making a change and am dieting. I have lost 13 pounds so far but have a long way to go. I was just wondering, how does it feel to be skinny? When I pull fat away from my body in a certain area it feels so ';light'; and comfortable until I let go. So skinny people! How does it feel to be skinny?How does it feel to be skinny?
Hi there
I think it's great that you've decided to make a change and get into shape. Good on you!! =) As for being skinny... I've been slim all my life (5';3, 110lbs), and I can say that I always and still have a lot of body hangups and areas that I wish to improve. So it's not as though once you're skinny, life will be perfect and you'll be happy, which I'm sure you know already. I do think, however, that you will be much more satisfied with your body and yourself and will appreciate being healthy much more than the average born-skinny people out there, since you will have worked hard for it and also know what it feels like to be bigger. It's pretty amazing how your body can change though, and how with some healthy eating and exercise habits it seems to just take on its natural shape... naturally! =)
I agree with the first answer though, make sure you don't get too thin. I got bruises on my hips and thighs once from bedsprings when I was skinnier, and it can be painful to sit or lay down on hard surfaces when you're bony. Good luck on your weight loss journey, and soon enough you'll know how it feels too!How does it feel to be skinny?
I've been underweight my whole life, no matter what I do (I'm 5'5'' 100-105 lbs, 37 years old). Being skinny for me isn't all that comfortable. I can't lie on my front on hard surfaces as it hurts my hips. When I go to yoga, I have to use three mats because my spine presses on the floor otherwise. You want to get slim, but not ';skinny';. Good for you for making a change - the earlier you do it, the better. You'll be a healthy teen and adult and that's great.pets howtodealwithacheatingboyfriend
Hi there
I think it's great that you've decided to make a change and get into shape. Good on you!! =) As for being skinny... I've been slim all my life (5';3, 110lbs), and I can say that I always and still have a lot of body hangups and areas that I wish to improve. So it's not as though once you're skinny, life will be perfect and you'll be happy, which I'm sure you know already. I do think, however, that you will be much more satisfied with your body and yourself and will appreciate being healthy much more than the average born-skinny people out there, since you will have worked hard for it and also know what it feels like to be bigger. It's pretty amazing how your body can change though, and how with some healthy eating and exercise habits it seems to just take on its natural shape... naturally! =)
I agree with the first answer though, make sure you don't get too thin. I got bruises on my hips and thighs once from bedsprings when I was skinnier, and it can be painful to sit or lay down on hard surfaces when you're bony. Good luck on your weight loss journey, and soon enough you'll know how it feels too!How does it feel to be skinny?
I've been underweight my whole life, no matter what I do (I'm 5'5'' 100-105 lbs, 37 years old). Being skinny for me isn't all that comfortable. I can't lie on my front on hard surfaces as it hurts my hips. When I go to yoga, I have to use three mats because my spine presses on the floor otherwise. You want to get slim, but not ';skinny';. Good for you for making a change - the earlier you do it, the better. You'll be a healthy teen and adult and that's great.
How do u get lighter skin?
hello im a black nigerian boy.. i live in the usa and i kinda want to change my skin complexion and look a little bit lighter.... help please,... can i like use bleaching lotion or somethingHow do u get lighter skin?
Black person in denial, Much?How do u get lighter skin?
do what MJ did bleach it!! he did have vitiligo tho, i dont know in the summer I get quite tanned but in the winter my skin gets lighter
Omg, you are obviously a little white European boy who's likes to play pranks and be a joker. Okay, I'll play along...
Listen to Barry Manilow, dress in Izod button down shirts, part your hair on the side and eat lots of mayo.
Tada, you're suddenly white skinned. J/K!!!!!
bleach it
Dont use a bleaching lotion! Its bad for you and looks unnatural.
Wear sunscreen everyday, and try to stay in the shade more when your outside.
These are the only tips I can give you to achieve lighter skin, because most of the time its natural.
I have very fair skin and cant tan worth crap, I cant change who I am.
Its better to embrace your skin whether your dark or light skinned. :)
Be proud of who you are.
Then why is your avatar white?
stay inside your house. stay away from sun. always wear long sleeves, and long pants. never expose your skin to any kind of light for a while and your skin will get lighter.
It's just like when you take off your cast, that part of the body has lighter skin than the part where it's been exposed to sunlight or any type of light.
You can wrap yourself up too but i would think that it's kind of dangerous.
oh and DO NOT BLEACH YOUR SKIN ! !!
don't change your self. there are a lot of products out there but they often times cause scaring and permanent skin damage, if you really really want to do something then go to a dermatologist don't rely on people on the internet to help you.. they usually don't know anything... like the moron who told you to use bleach.
Black person in denial, Much?How do u get lighter skin?
do what MJ did bleach it!! he did have vitiligo tho, i dont know in the summer I get quite tanned but in the winter my skin gets lighter
Omg, you are obviously a little white European boy who's likes to play pranks and be a joker. Okay, I'll play along...
Listen to Barry Manilow, dress in Izod button down shirts, part your hair on the side and eat lots of mayo.
Tada, you're suddenly white skinned. J/K!!!!!
bleach it
Dont use a bleaching lotion! Its bad for you and looks unnatural.
Wear sunscreen everyday, and try to stay in the shade more when your outside.
These are the only tips I can give you to achieve lighter skin, because most of the time its natural.
I have very fair skin and cant tan worth crap, I cant change who I am.
Its better to embrace your skin whether your dark or light skinned. :)
Be proud of who you are.
Then why is your avatar white?
stay inside your house. stay away from sun. always wear long sleeves, and long pants. never expose your skin to any kind of light for a while and your skin will get lighter.
It's just like when you take off your cast, that part of the body has lighter skin than the part where it's been exposed to sunlight or any type of light.
You can wrap yourself up too but i would think that it's kind of dangerous.
oh and DO NOT BLEACH YOUR SKIN ! !!
don't change your self. there are a lot of products out there but they often times cause scaring and permanent skin damage, if you really really want to do something then go to a dermatologist don't rely on people on the internet to help you.. they usually don't know anything... like the moron who told you to use bleach.
I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and am late.?
I know that you can get pregnant after having TL, and I know how small the change is, but I want to hear from people who have gone through this and / or CN-A's Dr.'s.
I am 27 years old, and had the TL when I was 21.
My LMP was on 11/6/2008 I am always on a 28 day cycle. ALWAYS!!
If you need any other info, please let me know and I will update.I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and am late.?
I had a tubal ligation when I was 25. I don't remember ever being late. And 6 years is a long time - from what I understand the chance of getting pregnant after tubal ligation would be pretty low at this point in time.
Have you been under a lot of stress lately? I have known people who missed their period during stressful times.
Hope this helps a little. Might want to check with your doctor.
Edit to HotBeagleMama - You know I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 30 because of a fibroid tumor the size of a cantaloupe. Then I developed cysts on both ovaries and had to have them removed. Then more surgery to have adhesions removed. Still have pain sometimes. They think I had endometriosis now. I have known other people (especially in my own family) who have had problems after they had tubal ligations and now I don't recommend them to anyone.I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and am late.?
I knew this one lady who had her tubes tied and her husband got snipped.. A little while later, she had twins
research the symptoms for Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome.
I had no trouble with mine for 3 years after that all heck broke loose. Depression, irregular periods ovarian cysts PMS in a huge way. Lost both ovaries this year and losing the uterus day after tomorrow, probably because of PTLS
I am 27 years old, and had the TL when I was 21.
My LMP was on 11/6/2008 I am always on a 28 day cycle. ALWAYS!!
If you need any other info, please let me know and I will update.I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and am late.?
I had a tubal ligation when I was 25. I don't remember ever being late. And 6 years is a long time - from what I understand the chance of getting pregnant after tubal ligation would be pretty low at this point in time.
Have you been under a lot of stress lately? I have known people who missed their period during stressful times.
Hope this helps a little. Might want to check with your doctor.
Edit to HotBeagleMama - You know I had to have a hysterectomy when I was 30 because of a fibroid tumor the size of a cantaloupe. Then I developed cysts on both ovaries and had to have them removed. Then more surgery to have adhesions removed. Still have pain sometimes. They think I had endometriosis now. I have known other people (especially in my own family) who have had problems after they had tubal ligations and now I don't recommend them to anyone.I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and am late.?
I knew this one lady who had her tubes tied and her husband got snipped.. A little while later, she had twins
research the symptoms for Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome.
I had no trouble with mine for 3 years after that all heck broke loose. Depression, irregular periods ovarian cysts PMS in a huge way. Lost both ovaries this year and losing the uterus day after tomorrow, probably because of PTLS
I'm moving to a different country, and I was thinking about sending this to my ex.?
I never tell him anything corny like this, but I kind of thought it was necessary since I'm never going to get to see him again.. We have quite a history and we had a lot of drama with our relationship, but I still love him and I know he still loves me after all that we've been through. Does this sound good? Or should I change it?
____, thanks for everything. And by everything, I mean even all the horrible things you've put me through. In the end, it was worth it. You're the one who made me stronger. I know we've been through so much **** together, but I'm glad I met you. You're one of those people that I'm never going to forget. Actually, I couldn't forget you even if I wanted to. Trust me, I've tried. From day one til now, you've always been on my mind. And words can't explain how I feel about you, really. Sometimes it's love, and other times it's hate. I guess it's both.. When I first met you, I never thought you'd be so important to me. Or I never thought I'd end up falling in love with you. I adore your smile, your perfect blue eyes, and your goofyness. You're so silly and I've never met someone who's not afraid to be themselves until I met you. I've always loved you and I know I always will somewhere in the back of my heart. I honestly wish I could stay here so I can straighten things out with you, but I guess that's not going to happen. Just my luck.. Well, I'm glad I met you and I'm so glad I got the chance to call you 'mine'. I loved the way you held me and when I was in your arms, I felt like I had everything I wanted. You're all I ever wanted, and still are. With you, everything just seemed.. right. And without you, the world seemed empty and colorless. You were the reason I got up in the morning and got ready.. You'll always be on my mind no matter what, no matter how far apart we are. One day I'll come back, believe me. Just know that you were the best I ever had and that I love you for who you are. So, never change, ____. Never change.. You're the one who stole my heart, without trying hard. You were the one who broke down the wall I had built up around myself. I let you in, and I knew I'd be able to trust you right away. I still do trust you, and you know everything there is to know about me. I'm not going to regret meeting you, because you are the one who changed me. ____, always know that my heart's always with you. No matter where I go, or no matter where you go. You don't have to love me, but just know and keep in mind that my heart's always with you. And I'm always here if you need me, I'm always willing to help you. You deserve the best of the best and you know that. Never let anyone bring you down, you're perfect just the way you are. I love you, and I always will. Forever and a day. %26lt;3
____, thanks for everything. And by everything, I mean even all the horrible things you've put me through. In the end, it was worth it. You're the one who made me stronger. I know we've been through so much **** together, but I'm glad I met you. You're one of those people that I'm never going to forget. Actually, I couldn't forget you even if I wanted to. Trust me, I've tried. From day one til now, you've always been on my mind. And words can't explain how I feel about you, really. Sometimes it's love, and other times it's hate. I guess it's both.. When I first met you, I never thought you'd be so important to me. Or I never thought I'd end up falling in love with you. I adore your smile, your perfect blue eyes, and your goofyness. You're so silly and I've never met someone who's not afraid to be themselves until I met you. I've always loved you and I know I always will somewhere in the back of my heart. I honestly wish I could stay here so I can straighten things out with you, but I guess that's not going to happen. Just my luck.. Well, I'm glad I met you and I'm so glad I got the chance to call you 'mine'. I loved the way you held me and when I was in your arms, I felt like I had everything I wanted. You're all I ever wanted, and still are. With you, everything just seemed.. right. And without you, the world seemed empty and colorless. You were the reason I got up in the morning and got ready.. You'll always be on my mind no matter what, no matter how far apart we are. One day I'll come back, believe me. Just know that you were the best I ever had and that I love you for who you are. So, never change, ____. Never change.. You're the one who stole my heart, without trying hard. You were the one who broke down the wall I had built up around myself. I let you in, and I knew I'd be able to trust you right away. I still do trust you, and you know everything there is to know about me. I'm not going to regret meeting you, because you are the one who changed me. ____, always know that my heart's always with you. No matter where I go, or no matter where you go. You don't have to love me, but just know and keep in mind that my heart's always with you. And I'm always here if you need me, I'm always willing to help you. You deserve the best of the best and you know that. Never let anyone bring you down, you're perfect just the way you are. I love you, and I always will. Forever and a day. %26lt;3
Explain what changing each coefficient does to a polynomial?
my (horrible) teacher gave us the formula y=ax^3+bx^2+cx+d and said what if you change the coefficient to a fraction, whole number, negative, positive, etc. how does it change the way the graph looks for the equation. but he wants us to do that for the a,b,c, and d values. it's a big grade and. I'm really lost, please help!Explain what changing each coefficient does to a polynomial?
basically what it's asking is if you change the a, what will it mean for x? 1/2 x^3 looks different than 2x^3 right? explain that change
do the same for each of the letters
basically what it's asking is if you change the a, what will it mean for x? 1/2 x^3 looks different than 2x^3 right? explain that change
do the same for each of the letters
How to lie to girls n ignore?
hi , i like this gal , but she doesnt. she sees me as a fren.. whenever she needs somethg frm me then she will come to me .. otherwise nothg gr8..
i hv been stressing coz of her .. now she needs free vouchers of gym frm me.. she knows i'll get it for her .. she knows that i like her n care 4 her n can do anythg for her ..
i wish i could learn to lie to her.. n show i am not interested or learn to ignore her..but its hard.. we live in same house..
i am too emotional i cant get angry, if i do i may risk gettg epilepsy..
how can i change my lifestyle, i no more want to mr nice guy. wana be hard.. n ignore gals ..
how to do that.. my heart is too honest n sincere.. n weak..
i guess that gal knows that..How to lie to girls n ignore?
Please tell me she's just a flat-mate.How to lie to girls n ignore?
bring them to facebook!
You can still be a nice guy, but don't be taken advantage of, that's all. I know that you really like this girl, but she has shown you, told you and made it crystal clear that she only sees you as a platonic type friend and nothing more. Just like some girls have crushes on guys who don't happen to reciprocate the same feelings so happens to guys also, which seems to be your case.
You don't have to be mean to her or anyone for that matter, but you just have to make sure that you aren't being ';used'; by anyone. If you do, then it will make you bitter. Your heart is NOT weak, it is just that you want to help those you care about. You need to find a way to put this girl in the same category as your casual type friends and not allow your world and life to revolve around her. You need to find a way to treat her just as you would any other girl. Actually, you need to find a way to avoid interaction with her as much as you can as it will enable you to get over her more quickly.
';i am too emotional i cant get angry, if i do i may risk gettg epilepsy..';
REALLY?
Learning to put boundaries in place and get what you want out of life has nothing to do with epileptic seizures UNLESS you think of yourself as a person that gets taken advantage which triggers the seizure and serves your purpose.
You know the way out. Stop pretending that you dont. You've used these seizures as a curse for your good natured behaviors and being taken advantage of- but that's not true, is it?
STOP doing this to yourself. Wake up and take control of your own life. People do not give you seizures- YOU give yourself seizures.
Stop it.
Stop perpetuating this ';Woe is Me'; attitude.
STOP.
Tomorrow you are going to move through this and on to becoming a full fledged Human Being- One who doesn't have robotic tendencies and allow others to push your buttons. You are in charge Now. NOT your parents and not their *miserably fake* stand-ins-
the girls you claim that take advantage of you.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE. No more excuses.
let's go. NOW. BEGIN!
Just learn to say ';NO';
if you WANT a relationship with her then just tell her say ' dunoe what u feel for me but i think i see you more than a friend'
but if you want to ignore her try going out and meeting new people and not being as 'nice' to her and say NO for an answwer when ever she asks for something kinda like puttin your foot down
hope this helped.:)
lol there are many sources where you can get free vouchers to give herEcho home bedding computer sound out
i hv been stressing coz of her .. now she needs free vouchers of gym frm me.. she knows i'll get it for her .. she knows that i like her n care 4 her n can do anythg for her ..
i wish i could learn to lie to her.. n show i am not interested or learn to ignore her..but its hard.. we live in same house..
i am too emotional i cant get angry, if i do i may risk gettg epilepsy..
how can i change my lifestyle, i no more want to mr nice guy. wana be hard.. n ignore gals ..
how to do that.. my heart is too honest n sincere.. n weak..
i guess that gal knows that..How to lie to girls n ignore?
Please tell me she's just a flat-mate.How to lie to girls n ignore?
bring them to facebook!
You can still be a nice guy, but don't be taken advantage of, that's all. I know that you really like this girl, but she has shown you, told you and made it crystal clear that she only sees you as a platonic type friend and nothing more. Just like some girls have crushes on guys who don't happen to reciprocate the same feelings so happens to guys also, which seems to be your case.
You don't have to be mean to her or anyone for that matter, but you just have to make sure that you aren't being ';used'; by anyone. If you do, then it will make you bitter. Your heart is NOT weak, it is just that you want to help those you care about. You need to find a way to put this girl in the same category as your casual type friends and not allow your world and life to revolve around her. You need to find a way to treat her just as you would any other girl. Actually, you need to find a way to avoid interaction with her as much as you can as it will enable you to get over her more quickly.
';i am too emotional i cant get angry, if i do i may risk gettg epilepsy..';
REALLY?
Learning to put boundaries in place and get what you want out of life has nothing to do with epileptic seizures UNLESS you think of yourself as a person that gets taken advantage which triggers the seizure and serves your purpose.
You know the way out. Stop pretending that you dont. You've used these seizures as a curse for your good natured behaviors and being taken advantage of- but that's not true, is it?
STOP doing this to yourself. Wake up and take control of your own life. People do not give you seizures- YOU give yourself seizures.
Stop it.
Stop perpetuating this ';Woe is Me'; attitude.
STOP.
Tomorrow you are going to move through this and on to becoming a full fledged Human Being- One who doesn't have robotic tendencies and allow others to push your buttons. You are in charge Now. NOT your parents and not their *miserably fake* stand-ins-
the girls you claim that take advantage of you.
YOU ARE IN CHARGE. No more excuses.
let's go. NOW. BEGIN!
Just learn to say ';NO';
if you WANT a relationship with her then just tell her say ' dunoe what u feel for me but i think i see you more than a friend'
but if you want to ignore her try going out and meeting new people and not being as 'nice' to her and say NO for an answwer when ever she asks for something kinda like puttin your foot down
hope this helped.:)
lol there are many sources where you can get free vouchers to give her
I gave my life to God so why do these things still come back to haunt me?
I prayed and asked God to forgive me for all my sins and help me i gave him my life i said God i want o live for you and i feel really great but mom is just on to me lately like i was accidentally late to school and shes onto me she doesn't really know about me trieng to change but i made a mistake and prayed about it i mean we all will right but she has been really getting onto me and i failed some of my 9 weeks classes but i passed for the semester so she is onto me how can i show her i a sorry and i am going to improve next year.I gave my life to God so why do these things still come back to haunt me?
Try to understand GOD better. Don't listen to atheists. Read more about the religions of the world . Your performance will improve both in school and with the real world.I gave my life to God so why do these things still come back to haunt me?
Easy question.
God isn't real and you are too gullible to understand that.
Maybe you should actually DO something about your problems instead of talking to your imaginary friend about them.
So your mom is the devil?
Ah, high school. I miss those days. Life was easy, no pressure to heal the sick and get crucified...
I'm guessing writing, spelling and grammar were not your strong points...
So since giving your life to God, what has changed?
God won't save you from day to day problems. Improve how you behave and maybe your mother will ease up on you.
Keep trying. It takes time.
Talk to her. Be honest. She will see that you are trying to be better. I wish you all the best.
God isn't a magic formula, all his disciples died... this isn't a promise for a good life despite what Joel osteen tell you. the promise is sins forgiven, not a trouble free life.
please read my article on how to be right with God
http://deliveredtothesaints.com/how-can-i-be-right-with-god/
Let's pretend that the only sin is you must keep a clean room. Time goes by, and you haven't made your bed in forever, there's a pizza box under the bed, and it's gotten so bad that mold is growing in weird places.
Now, you get reconciled with God for this one sin (u've got a dirty room) ... would you expect that the room will be perfectly clean when you return? Most likely, God will let the cleaning of the room be a penance to help you avoid such behavior in the future ... however, sometimes, God will send a help (like a Mom, sister, friend) to help you clean it up ... and yes, sometimes that helper may do it all; but this scenario is rare!
its a test of your faith
Ask for a time in her schedule where the two of you can talk things out - both religiously and about school. Hopefully, that should stop the nagging by her about your grades. (You may want to start things off by promising her to tell the truth.)
I went though this in my Tenth grade year simply because I nearly flunked Geometry. I had zero's on all my homework, yet the teacher never gave me instructions or tell me what I was doing wrong. I was very scared when I brought that first report card home because I knew what would happen. Since I was doing fine in my other subjects (B average), my Mom knew something was wrong. My father looked into it, and found that the teacher of *that* class automatically flunked girls because he didn't like to teach them mathematics. I'm not sure what was said, but that grade went up....
So talk things out with your Mom. At least it may show her that you're serious about doing better in school.
God has forgiven you but it seems your mom might have trust issues. So show her by your actions you have changed..not just words...so be on time or even early for school, get all your homework done on time, etc.
Keep this up and overtime if you remain faithful to get to school on time and do your homework, studies, etc...then she should come around.
But since you were late AFTER you gave your life to the Lord, that is not something that comes back to haunt you. You just did it. You have to try harder. There is no excuse for being late to class when you are a girl. Oh, when I was in high school over 30 years ago I would be late to geometry because I had to run across the school after I left my girlfriend when the buzzer rang. But I was so smart at the top of the class the teacher let me slide. But I was certainly not saved then.
Now that you gave your life to the Lord, that is not good enough. You have to have the goodness of God lead you to repentance (Romans 2:4). Once you repent then God will make you born again by the Holy Spirit. You will then have the power of God in your life to overcome the urge to sin. The Lord Jesus Christ will change yuour life. He sets us free from ther slavery to sin. We no longer practice sin. We practice righteousness. That's Christianity. Maybe your mom doesn't see much change in you because that has not happened yet.
You can't just pray to God and not try to change things yourself. He's not just pixie dust you can sprinkle on your problems. Try studying or doing a little extra around the house. But remember the worst thing you can do is disrespect you mom so make sure you're respectful to her too.
Dear Friend,
I appreciate your honesty in your question. When one gives their life to God, patience and perseverance are their best friends. Every single morning we need to wake up and start afresh with no residue from hurts of yesterdays. This is the true freedom, release from all the residues. This indeed is an everyday job. You can always pray for your mom but leave the timing to God only for non can force spiritual evolution on others. Everything at its own designated time. We cant be hasty about it but accept what is. Love yourself, meditate, pray, form loving bonds, give your heart in your studies, eat well, think well of everyone and have hope things will change for the better at the right time. God bless you always. Peace, Love and Blessings!
Faith is fine, but no substitute for action. ';God helps those who help themselves';. She will have more compassion for those who accept responsibility for their own lives. Does your Mom pray? She needs support, too. After all she has taken on responsibility for both of you, so she must lose patience if it appears (this is obvious) that you simply are not making the effort to raise your own standards.
Even resorting to Answers is denying responsibility for your own actions- in a word, ';Look within, not without';.
Here's how to test your own faith: Consider the possibility that you have been granted one single moment to ask your God(ess) one simple question- What would that question be?
Try to understand GOD better. Don't listen to atheists. Read more about the religions of the world . Your performance will improve both in school and with the real world.I gave my life to God so why do these things still come back to haunt me?
Easy question.
God isn't real and you are too gullible to understand that.
Maybe you should actually DO something about your problems instead of talking to your imaginary friend about them.
So your mom is the devil?
Ah, high school. I miss those days. Life was easy, no pressure to heal the sick and get crucified...
I'm guessing writing, spelling and grammar were not your strong points...
So since giving your life to God, what has changed?
God won't save you from day to day problems. Improve how you behave and maybe your mother will ease up on you.
Keep trying. It takes time.
Talk to her. Be honest. She will see that you are trying to be better. I wish you all the best.
God isn't a magic formula, all his disciples died... this isn't a promise for a good life despite what Joel osteen tell you. the promise is sins forgiven, not a trouble free life.
please read my article on how to be right with God
http://deliveredtothesaints.com/how-can-i-be-right-with-god/
Let's pretend that the only sin is you must keep a clean room. Time goes by, and you haven't made your bed in forever, there's a pizza box under the bed, and it's gotten so bad that mold is growing in weird places.
Now, you get reconciled with God for this one sin (u've got a dirty room) ... would you expect that the room will be perfectly clean when you return? Most likely, God will let the cleaning of the room be a penance to help you avoid such behavior in the future ... however, sometimes, God will send a help (like a Mom, sister, friend) to help you clean it up ... and yes, sometimes that helper may do it all; but this scenario is rare!
its a test of your faith
Ask for a time in her schedule where the two of you can talk things out - both religiously and about school. Hopefully, that should stop the nagging by her about your grades. (You may want to start things off by promising her to tell the truth.)
I went though this in my Tenth grade year simply because I nearly flunked Geometry. I had zero's on all my homework, yet the teacher never gave me instructions or tell me what I was doing wrong. I was very scared when I brought that first report card home because I knew what would happen. Since I was doing fine in my other subjects (B average), my Mom knew something was wrong. My father looked into it, and found that the teacher of *that* class automatically flunked girls because he didn't like to teach them mathematics. I'm not sure what was said, but that grade went up....
So talk things out with your Mom. At least it may show her that you're serious about doing better in school.
God has forgiven you but it seems your mom might have trust issues. So show her by your actions you have changed..not just words...so be on time or even early for school, get all your homework done on time, etc.
Keep this up and overtime if you remain faithful to get to school on time and do your homework, studies, etc...then she should come around.
But since you were late AFTER you gave your life to the Lord, that is not something that comes back to haunt you. You just did it. You have to try harder. There is no excuse for being late to class when you are a girl. Oh, when I was in high school over 30 years ago I would be late to geometry because I had to run across the school after I left my girlfriend when the buzzer rang. But I was so smart at the top of the class the teacher let me slide. But I was certainly not saved then.
Now that you gave your life to the Lord, that is not good enough. You have to have the goodness of God lead you to repentance (Romans 2:4). Once you repent then God will make you born again by the Holy Spirit. You will then have the power of God in your life to overcome the urge to sin. The Lord Jesus Christ will change yuour life. He sets us free from ther slavery to sin. We no longer practice sin. We practice righteousness. That's Christianity. Maybe your mom doesn't see much change in you because that has not happened yet.
You can't just pray to God and not try to change things yourself. He's not just pixie dust you can sprinkle on your problems. Try studying or doing a little extra around the house. But remember the worst thing you can do is disrespect you mom so make sure you're respectful to her too.
Dear Friend,
I appreciate your honesty in your question. When one gives their life to God, patience and perseverance are their best friends. Every single morning we need to wake up and start afresh with no residue from hurts of yesterdays. This is the true freedom, release from all the residues. This indeed is an everyday job. You can always pray for your mom but leave the timing to God only for non can force spiritual evolution on others. Everything at its own designated time. We cant be hasty about it but accept what is. Love yourself, meditate, pray, form loving bonds, give your heart in your studies, eat well, think well of everyone and have hope things will change for the better at the right time. God bless you always. Peace, Love and Blessings!
Faith is fine, but no substitute for action. ';God helps those who help themselves';. She will have more compassion for those who accept responsibility for their own lives. Does your Mom pray? She needs support, too. After all she has taken on responsibility for both of you, so she must lose patience if it appears (this is obvious) that you simply are not making the effort to raise your own standards.
Even resorting to Answers is denying responsibility for your own actions- in a word, ';Look within, not without';.
Here's how to test your own faith: Consider the possibility that you have been granted one single moment to ask your God(ess) one simple question- What would that question be?
Why does my Myspace homepage just show where I type in my status and the stream?
It just shows where I type in my status where it says ';what do you want to share?'; and everyones statuses. How do I change it back to the original bcuz when my friend logged on myspace in the same computer it showed hers as the normal homepage.Why does my Myspace homepage just show where I type in my status and the stream?
you cant change it back to the old homepage
keep in mind that myspace rolls out changes like this based on a person's friend id, so not everyone receives the updates all at the same time
you cant change it back to the old homepage
keep in mind that myspace rolls out changes like this based on a person's friend id, so not everyone receives the updates all at the same time
Going to Rhodes, Falikari, all inclusive how much spending money will I need?
I'm visiting Rhodes, Falikari next month for 2 weeks, we are going all inclusive but some nights me and my boyfriend will want to go out to the bars etc.. and maybe eat at another restaurant now and again for a change. Also theres the waterpark etc... Im confused on how much I will need for myself :/ 200 maybe?Going to Rhodes, Falikari, all inclusive how much spending money will I need?
Falirakh.
CRISIS AT ALL LEVELS ! Greece is not able to solve this problems alone. We need our neighbor countries to send here armies and police to organize order.Going to Rhodes, Falikari, all inclusive how much spending money will I need?
Veziritsa and Mpampis my so very silly cuzins from Former YuGAYslav.. why you joke with peoples.. NO CRISIS IN GREECE.. GREECE IS ALWAYS SAFE AND BEAUTIFUL...
FYROM (FORMER YUGAYSLAVIA) IN CRISIS... MANY DISEASES AND BACTERIA ATTACKS..
Bring between 300 - 500 just to have on you..
HELLASS IN CIVIL WAR ! EHOUME POLEMO !
Falirakh.
CRISIS AT ALL LEVELS ! Greece is not able to solve this problems alone. We need our neighbor countries to send here armies and police to organize order.Going to Rhodes, Falikari, all inclusive how much spending money will I need?
Veziritsa and Mpampis my so very silly cuzins from Former YuGAYslav.. why you joke with peoples.. NO CRISIS IN GREECE.. GREECE IS ALWAYS SAFE AND BEAUTIFUL...
FYROM (FORMER YUGAYSLAVIA) IN CRISIS... MANY DISEASES AND BACTERIA ATTACKS..
Bring between 300 - 500 just to have on you..
HELLASS IN CIVIL WAR ! EHOUME POLEMO !
Computer files order changed?
my files were shown in ascending order 1,2,3,4,5, etc. now they're in descending order no big prob but annoying , anyone know how to change them back in windows 7.
thanksComputer files order changed?
http://goodstohand.com/Computer files order changed?
sort them by name and they will be back in order.
In Windows Explorer go to View - Sort By.
Right click on backround of file window, hover over ';sort by/view by'; and click which one you think they were being sorted by. If they were sorted by date, e.g. all new photos were at the bottom and so on, then click ';modified'; or ';by date';. However if they were sorted by name, as in numbers at top, then a, b, c and so on, then click that.
thanksComputer files order changed?
http://goodstohand.com/Computer files order changed?
sort them by name and they will be back in order.
In Windows Explorer go to View - Sort By.
Right click on backround of file window, hover over ';sort by/view by'; and click which one you think they were being sorted by. If they were sorted by date, e.g. all new photos were at the bottom and so on, then click ';modified'; or ';by date';. However if they were sorted by name, as in numbers at top, then a, b, c and so on, then click that.
I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Seriously.. I'm so boring... I can't be funny... Everytime I try to say something funny, people answer to me seriously... I'm not funny. With my ex girlfriends, they liked me 'cause I was kinda mysterious and looked great... But damn when they realised how boring I am... they quit.
How can I change this? Honestly, I want to be funny ! (But not stupid).
Thanks!I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Just be yurself...everybody aint funny like me lolI'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
It's too latefind a cute comforter powder coat bmx frame
How can I change this? Honestly, I want to be funny ! (But not stupid).
Thanks!I'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
Just be yurself...everybody aint funny like me lolI'm boring ! How can I be more entertaining?
It's too late
How can i hack my computer's password?
my dad put a password on my computer i hw wont tell me what it is and when ever im using it when hes not looking i try to hack it but i don't know how so i need help i don't want to change it or anything i just want to know what it isHow can i hack my computer's password?
I would like to introduce Windows Password Key 8.0 . it not only supports XP, 2000, and NT, I have personally tested it with Vista Home Premium and Ultimate. It creates a password recovery CD/DVD,USB Flash Drive for home, business and enterprise. It works perfectly to reset your Windows password.How can i hack my computer's password?
Need to know what version of windows you have to answer your question.
';i don't want to change it or anything i just want to know what it is.....';
...presumably so he won;t take it away from you, which is what he'll do if he finds out that you can get past his password.
It would have helped if you had at least mentioned what brand of machine this was, because different computer makers have different ways of dealing with passwords - HP is supposed to have a password reset CD. Try looking through your dad's important stuff for any CD w/the computer's brand on it.
You can't find out the password, you can only change it, which you obviously do not want to do.
Stay away from the sites posted because they won't help you, and several of them are red flagged
...
how can i hack my computer's password?
I had fund A windows password tool to reset any windows pasword.
and the serial is锛?1045-1268-8776-9082-1752-3896
I would like to introduce Windows Password Key 8.0 . it not only supports XP, 2000, and NT, I have personally tested it with Vista Home Premium and Ultimate. It creates a password recovery CD/DVD,USB Flash Drive for home, business and enterprise. It works perfectly to reset your Windows password.How can i hack my computer's password?
Need to know what version of windows you have to answer your question.
';i don't want to change it or anything i just want to know what it is.....';
...presumably so he won;t take it away from you, which is what he'll do if he finds out that you can get past his password.
It would have helped if you had at least mentioned what brand of machine this was, because different computer makers have different ways of dealing with passwords - HP is supposed to have a password reset CD. Try looking through your dad's important stuff for any CD w/the computer's brand on it.
You can't find out the password, you can only change it, which you obviously do not want to do.
Stay away from the sites posted because they won't help you, and several of them are red flagged
...
how can i hack my computer's password?
I had fund A windows password tool to reset any windows pasword.
and the serial is锛?1045-1268-8776-9082-1752-3896
How do I put salt in my aquarium?
I'm pretty sure my goldfish is suffering from nitrite poisoning, so I did a large water change earlier today and he seems to be a little better.
I know adding salt can help with nitrite poisoning, so how do I add some? I know you can't use salt with iodide, but would rock or kosher salt work? Thanks.How do I put salt in my aquarium?
Yes, kosher salt is generally safe. You would mix it in a separate cup and add the dissolved salt to the tank, mixing thoroughly. Add about 1 tablespoon or less per gallon of water. Aeration or additional surface water movement should be added to provide plenty of dissolved oxygen in the tank.
I know adding salt can help with nitrite poisoning, so how do I add some? I know you can't use salt with iodide, but would rock or kosher salt work? Thanks.How do I put salt in my aquarium?
Yes, kosher salt is generally safe. You would mix it in a separate cup and add the dissolved salt to the tank, mixing thoroughly. Add about 1 tablespoon or less per gallon of water. Aeration or additional surface water movement should be added to provide plenty of dissolved oxygen in the tank.
I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
i am having the aspiration abortion in a couple of days and i wanted to know what was the after care process like as far as cramping bleeding how long did you cramp and bleed for how you felt on the inside.when you went back for the check up were you pretty much healed and was done cramping and bleeding just to get maybe a general idea of what it is like i know everyone is different but i would like to hear from people who have had this done thank you.
PS I DONT NEED TO HEAR ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ITS FINAL AND IF YOU DISAGREE KEEP IT TO YOURSELF BECAUSE IM NOT CHANGING MY MIND THANKSI wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
Drink lots of fluids
Stay off work for a few days if you can
Take vitamins, eat healthy food, and try to sleep
Take the antibiotics prescribed by your doctor right away, and for the full amount of days prescribed!
No exercise for two weeks
No swimming or tub baths for 2 weeks
Don't lift anything over 15 pounds for two weeks, don't use ANYTHING vaginally for 2-4 weeks - no sex, no tampons, no douches.
You can ovulate as soon as two weeks after an abortion, which means yes, you could get pregnant again within two weeks after an abortion!
After the 2-4 weeks is over, you should NOT have sex again unless you feel physically recovered, and have discussed with your partner what you want to do if an unplanned pregnancy occurs again. Do NOT let yourself be pressured into having sex again before you are physically and emotionally ready, and have had a serious discussion about the course of action for future unplanned pregnancies. You can get pregnant as soon as two weeks after an abortion! Your body normally will go back to it's regular cycle, and release an egg (ovulation) at 2 weeks post-ab. So once you decide you are ready to resume sexual intercourse again, make sure you are using birth control right away. As many of us know, birth control is NOT 100% effective. So it's very important that you don't have sex again until you are healed physically and emotionally, and you have a clear consensus on what will happen if you become unexpectedly pregnant again.
For women who had an abortion for maternal health reasons, or for a poor prenatal diagnosis, consult your doctor about birth control and future pregnancies.
If you were 9 or more weeks along in the pregnancy, it is possible that you may have trouble with milk, or a milky fluid leaking from your breasts after the abortion. The further along you were, the higher the chance of having your 'milk come in'. This can be upsetting, but it won't last for long. It's a normal effect of the hormones that your body releases when you are no longer pregnant. These hormones make your body start to produce milk, whenever a pregnancy is ended. Your breasts may feel sore, tight, swollen, and will leak out droplets of clear to whitish fluid. At times the milk may 'let down', and a substantial amount of liquid may come out. To help with this stage, wear a well-fitting/snug bra, and try avoid stimulation of your breasts or nipples. Wear the bra 24 hours a day until your milk dries up. It can take one to four weeks for the milk to dry up. It will not be as painful as it originally feels when the milk first comes in - as the milk is not 'used' the pressure on the milk ducts will cause the milk to 'dry up'. Keep wearing that snug-fitting bra, and take tylenol for the soreness, and this will subside. If you develop a fever, or extreme tenderness in either of your breasts, consult a doctor - there is also a condition where your milk glands can get infected, and this will need to be treated with antibiotics. (This is a rare complication).I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
I don't know. Why the hell are you asking me?
I dunno I am keeping my baby instead of killing it
I had an abortion about 5 days ago.
The first three days theres little to no bleeding because it takes a bit for your body to realize that you are no longer pregnent. My bleeding is getting heavier now and should continue for a week or two.
Sometimes i get severe cramps, but nothing too horrible.
Good luck and dont listen to anyone here who is going on about pro life and such.
I hope this helped, and dont worry too much, everything will be fine. :)
if you want to go to a pro choice site, i would recommned www.imnotsorry.net
I had one done and I was in a lot of pain the day of, aftewards cramping really bad for an entire day, but the following day I was totally back to normal and bleeding like a light period. Normal activities resumed and then I went to a party that weekend and everything was totally normal. Just make sure you have help for the first day. I threw up and cramped (like labor cramps) that first whole day.
what is an aspiration abortion?
and i bled a lot-- i throw up the first time... and the cramping really hurts.. its like period cramping. but twice as painful.. im not sure how long i bled for.. it was a few years ago.. i was actually thinking about it last night.. weirdly enough.. lol.. but i never went for a check up afterwards.. i just stayed n the house for weeks.. (it was n the summer)
Here is a great link about what happens after abortion. It should give you some answers.
http://abortionincanada.ca/health/physic…
You can also read testimonies by a thousand women who had abortions in the past:
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
Sometimes, regret, grief and guilt come years after the fact, but they fall on you like a ton of bricks. I heard such a live testimony which I will never forget, by a woman who described herself at first like ';the perfect Planned Parenthood success story';. One thing I can absolutely guarantee is that your abortion is an experience you will never forget. Some described it as ';having life sucked out of you';, which it literally is since you are now carrying life. This sense of emptiness often leads to years of depression. So many women complained that nobody warned them about what would happen to them after abortion. All these post-abortive women are there to warn you.
If you want real stories by real women about their real abortions, then I can only agree with the poster above me who linked to Silent No More because they will tell you exactly what the abortion, and its aftermath, was like: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
It isn't ';negative'; for people to urge you to think again. Your child is precious and loved by more people than you know, even people you aren't aware of. S/he has a future husband or wife, children, friends, colleagues in the future; all those people need your child to be alive. That is something we genuinely care about; it is not negative. It's more positive, and more loving toward you, than you realize.
For example, your abortionist will not tell you, ';Okay, by having this abortion you're consenting to put yourself at a 40% increased risk of a fatal form of breast cancer.'; Yet, that is the ugly truth, and you don't have to take my word for it. See this study: http://www.abortionbreastcancer.com/pres…
You're talking about how the abortion will be for *you*, how *you* will feel after it, yet are you aware of what happens to the child during an aspiration abortion? http://www.haltonprolife.com/abortion-me…
Even without knowing you, I don't want to believe that you could intentionally do that to your own child. You are a mother, whether you like it or not, and you are this child's primary guardian! A mother nourishes, protects, guards, guides, teaches, yet abortion is the opposite of everything womanly, tender or affectionate.
I know you said your mind is made up. I don't know why you're having an abortion, but I do know that it won't bring you the happiness, relief or freedom you think it will bring you. It can't. You can't hurt someone and expect to be happy and free. I don't know if you were raped, if you need treatment for a disease, or whatever, but I do know that taking a life--your child's life--is not the answer.
A lot of women who have abortions say that their immediate reaction was relief. Over time, that relief wore away and turned into bitterness, denial, even anger at others who reminded them of it in one way or another. Slowly, sometimes over the course of decades, the bitterness turned to regret and despair. Women who do not come to regret their abortions continue to live bitter and unhappy lives; they seem normal on the outside and even claim to be just fine with their abortions, but they are bitter and lost. I've encountered some such women, and they are very sad inside. Unfortunately, they don't think they can or should face it or discuss it, so they get furious with others who try to help them face their past abortions. And then there are others--a handful by comparison--who truly do not care about the abortion and are totally hardened by it. But is that what a woman ought to be?
The very fact that you are yelling on here at anyone who disagrees with you shows that you are already becoming that kind of woman, but you CAN change your mind and stop that process.
It's humanly impossible to take an innocent life and still continue to be happy and fulfilled. It's not possible. Because we are all connected to one another and because we are not in charge of who lives and who dies, when we take a human life, we hurt not only that person, but our very selves.
All this isn't just a ';personal opinion.'; An opinion would be saying that I think a Toyota is better than a Honda. All of us, whatever our religious beliefs or lack thereof, have written on our hearts from the time we are created that it is wrong to hurt and kill another person. Over time, we may chisel away at that and pretend not to know that anymore, but it's still true. Aborting your baby is seriously wrong, and there will be negative consequences in your life because you are hurting another person. Even if you have good intentions, such as trying to spare the child some pain, you are still hurting your child in the worst and most permanent way.
And if I didn't really care about you as a mother myself, I wouldn't bother saying these things to you, things you may be very upset to hear because they are true. Warning you isn't ';negative';; it's doing the truly thoughtful thing, because MOST women who regret their abortions say, ';No one told me what it would really be like.';
You need loving help for your baby so that this problem can be solved and no one is hurt. Don't you want to know that there is help for you? Wouldn't you much rather give this person life than not? There are people who can help you with this, with everything. They will help you find a loving adoptive family or help you keep this baby. There are volunteers who do everything for mothers in need, they are so desperate to help. You have no idea how much comfort and encouragment, not to mention practical help, they will give you. They can help with medical care, housing, a job, getting supplies for the baby, for no cost at all. For free, they will either relieve you of your baby and give him/her to someone who loves him/her, or help you keep your child. Here:
http://www.birthright.org/htmpages/locat…
http://www.standupgirl.com/index.php?opt…
Won't you call this number 1-800-550-4900 and talk to someone about this? Doesn't your child deserve that? Let someone help you and your baby.
PS I DONT NEED TO HEAR ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ITS FINAL AND IF YOU DISAGREE KEEP IT TO YOURSELF BECAUSE IM NOT CHANGING MY MIND THANKSI wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
Drink lots of fluids
Stay off work for a few days if you can
Take vitamins, eat healthy food, and try to sleep
Take the antibiotics prescribed by your doctor right away, and for the full amount of days prescribed!
No exercise for two weeks
No swimming or tub baths for 2 weeks
Don't lift anything over 15 pounds for two weeks, don't use ANYTHING vaginally for 2-4 weeks - no sex, no tampons, no douches.
You can ovulate as soon as two weeks after an abortion, which means yes, you could get pregnant again within two weeks after an abortion!
After the 2-4 weeks is over, you should NOT have sex again unless you feel physically recovered, and have discussed with your partner what you want to do if an unplanned pregnancy occurs again. Do NOT let yourself be pressured into having sex again before you are physically and emotionally ready, and have had a serious discussion about the course of action for future unplanned pregnancies. You can get pregnant as soon as two weeks after an abortion! Your body normally will go back to it's regular cycle, and release an egg (ovulation) at 2 weeks post-ab. So once you decide you are ready to resume sexual intercourse again, make sure you are using birth control right away. As many of us know, birth control is NOT 100% effective. So it's very important that you don't have sex again until you are healed physically and emotionally, and you have a clear consensus on what will happen if you become unexpectedly pregnant again.
For women who had an abortion for maternal health reasons, or for a poor prenatal diagnosis, consult your doctor about birth control and future pregnancies.
If you were 9 or more weeks along in the pregnancy, it is possible that you may have trouble with milk, or a milky fluid leaking from your breasts after the abortion. The further along you were, the higher the chance of having your 'milk come in'. This can be upsetting, but it won't last for long. It's a normal effect of the hormones that your body releases when you are no longer pregnant. These hormones make your body start to produce milk, whenever a pregnancy is ended. Your breasts may feel sore, tight, swollen, and will leak out droplets of clear to whitish fluid. At times the milk may 'let down', and a substantial amount of liquid may come out. To help with this stage, wear a well-fitting/snug bra, and try avoid stimulation of your breasts or nipples. Wear the bra 24 hours a day until your milk dries up. It can take one to four weeks for the milk to dry up. It will not be as painful as it originally feels when the milk first comes in - as the milk is not 'used' the pressure on the milk ducts will cause the milk to 'dry up'. Keep wearing that snug-fitting bra, and take tylenol for the soreness, and this will subside. If you develop a fever, or extreme tenderness in either of your breasts, consult a doctor - there is also a condition where your milk glands can get infected, and this will need to be treated with antibiotics. (This is a rare complication).I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
I don't know. Why the hell are you asking me?
I dunno I am keeping my baby instead of killing it
I had an abortion about 5 days ago.
The first three days theres little to no bleeding because it takes a bit for your body to realize that you are no longer pregnent. My bleeding is getting heavier now and should continue for a week or two.
Sometimes i get severe cramps, but nothing too horrible.
Good luck and dont listen to anyone here who is going on about pro life and such.
I hope this helped, and dont worry too much, everything will be fine. :)
if you want to go to a pro choice site, i would recommned www.imnotsorry.net
I had one done and I was in a lot of pain the day of, aftewards cramping really bad for an entire day, but the following day I was totally back to normal and bleeding like a light period. Normal activities resumed and then I went to a party that weekend and everything was totally normal. Just make sure you have help for the first day. I threw up and cramped (like labor cramps) that first whole day.
what is an aspiration abortion?
and i bled a lot-- i throw up the first time... and the cramping really hurts.. its like period cramping. but twice as painful.. im not sure how long i bled for.. it was a few years ago.. i was actually thinking about it last night.. weirdly enough.. lol.. but i never went for a check up afterwards.. i just stayed n the house for weeks.. (it was n the summer)
Here is a great link about what happens after abortion. It should give you some answers.
http://abortionincanada.ca/health/physic…
You can also read testimonies by a thousand women who had abortions in the past:
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
Sometimes, regret, grief and guilt come years after the fact, but they fall on you like a ton of bricks. I heard such a live testimony which I will never forget, by a woman who described herself at first like ';the perfect Planned Parenthood success story';. One thing I can absolutely guarantee is that your abortion is an experience you will never forget. Some described it as ';having life sucked out of you';, which it literally is since you are now carrying life. This sense of emptiness often leads to years of depression. So many women complained that nobody warned them about what would happen to them after abortion. All these post-abortive women are there to warn you.
If you want real stories by real women about their real abortions, then I can only agree with the poster above me who linked to Silent No More because they will tell you exactly what the abortion, and its aftermath, was like: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
It isn't ';negative'; for people to urge you to think again. Your child is precious and loved by more people than you know, even people you aren't aware of. S/he has a future husband or wife, children, friends, colleagues in the future; all those people need your child to be alive. That is something we genuinely care about; it is not negative. It's more positive, and more loving toward you, than you realize.
For example, your abortionist will not tell you, ';Okay, by having this abortion you're consenting to put yourself at a 40% increased risk of a fatal form of breast cancer.'; Yet, that is the ugly truth, and you don't have to take my word for it. See this study: http://www.abortionbreastcancer.com/pres…
You're talking about how the abortion will be for *you*, how *you* will feel after it, yet are you aware of what happens to the child during an aspiration abortion? http://www.haltonprolife.com/abortion-me…
Even without knowing you, I don't want to believe that you could intentionally do that to your own child. You are a mother, whether you like it or not, and you are this child's primary guardian! A mother nourishes, protects, guards, guides, teaches, yet abortion is the opposite of everything womanly, tender or affectionate.
I know you said your mind is made up. I don't know why you're having an abortion, but I do know that it won't bring you the happiness, relief or freedom you think it will bring you. It can't. You can't hurt someone and expect to be happy and free. I don't know if you were raped, if you need treatment for a disease, or whatever, but I do know that taking a life--your child's life--is not the answer.
A lot of women who have abortions say that their immediate reaction was relief. Over time, that relief wore away and turned into bitterness, denial, even anger at others who reminded them of it in one way or another. Slowly, sometimes over the course of decades, the bitterness turned to regret and despair. Women who do not come to regret their abortions continue to live bitter and unhappy lives; they seem normal on the outside and even claim to be just fine with their abortions, but they are bitter and lost. I've encountered some such women, and they are very sad inside. Unfortunately, they don't think they can or should face it or discuss it, so they get furious with others who try to help them face their past abortions. And then there are others--a handful by comparison--who truly do not care about the abortion and are totally hardened by it. But is that what a woman ought to be?
The very fact that you are yelling on here at anyone who disagrees with you shows that you are already becoming that kind of woman, but you CAN change your mind and stop that process.
It's humanly impossible to take an innocent life and still continue to be happy and fulfilled. It's not possible. Because we are all connected to one another and because we are not in charge of who lives and who dies, when we take a human life, we hurt not only that person, but our very selves.
All this isn't just a ';personal opinion.'; An opinion would be saying that I think a Toyota is better than a Honda. All of us, whatever our religious beliefs or lack thereof, have written on our hearts from the time we are created that it is wrong to hurt and kill another person. Over time, we may chisel away at that and pretend not to know that anymore, but it's still true. Aborting your baby is seriously wrong, and there will be negative consequences in your life because you are hurting another person. Even if you have good intentions, such as trying to spare the child some pain, you are still hurting your child in the worst and most permanent way.
And if I didn't really care about you as a mother myself, I wouldn't bother saying these things to you, things you may be very upset to hear because they are true. Warning you isn't ';negative';; it's doing the truly thoughtful thing, because MOST women who regret their abortions say, ';No one told me what it would really be like.';
You need loving help for your baby so that this problem can be solved and no one is hurt. Don't you want to know that there is help for you? Wouldn't you much rather give this person life than not? There are people who can help you with this, with everything. They will help you find a loving adoptive family or help you keep this baby. There are volunteers who do everything for mothers in need, they are so desperate to help. You have no idea how much comfort and encouragment, not to mention practical help, they will give you. They can help with medical care, housing, a job, getting supplies for the baby, for no cost at all. For free, they will either relieve you of your baby and give him/her to someone who loves him/her, or help you keep your child. Here:
http://www.birthright.org/htmpages/locat…
http://www.standupgirl.com/index.php?opt…
Won't you call this number 1-800-550-4900 and talk to someone about this? Doesn't your child deserve that? Let someone help you and your baby.
My Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
My wife and I have been married for about 8 months and since even before we were married, she has always suspected me of cheating. I have NEVER cheated on her, nor would I ever consider it. I love her with all my heart and could not find it in myself to ever do anything like that.
Recently, I got a promotion at work, changing my hours to 4am to 1230 pm, this means I would sleep when she is at work, and she sleeps when I'm at work. I don't know if anyone here has ever had a schedule like this, but I find it very difficult to sleep at 3 in the afternoon. So, sometimes I cant sleep till about 8 or 9 at night. She comes home, wondering why I'm still sleeping and when I tell her I couldn't sleep, she automatically assumes I'm cheating on her. I found multiple searches in my browser history of ';How to catch your husband cheating'; and ';How to tell if your husband is cheating';. She makes me sleep on the couch cause she is so angry and suspicious.
I know some of these answers will be, ';sit her down, tell her you love her and only her, and reassure her of this'; Trust me, I've tried this and much much more. I understand she was cheated on in the past and I acknowledge this an have taken this into consideration, but every little thing I do seems to be suspicious to her. If I get a call from a wrong number, she thinks I'm cheating, If someone texts me by mistake, she thinks I'm cheating. I just can't take it. She is treating me like I am a lying cheating bastard and I don't deserve this. I am 99.99% positive she is not cheating on me. I don't want to separate with her cause I couldn't function with out her, but I just can't take it anymore. She is making me suffer for her mistrusting nature.
What the hell do I do?My Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
Well, she needs Psychiatric help. She is insecure, and without help there is not much hope. good luckMy Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
My wife sometimes accuses me, but I deflect, deflect. She's usually way off -- for example, she'll think I'm cheating with the Latina clerk at work when in reality I more so enjoy the blond. She totally doesn't know my tastes!
Here's some options:
Marital counseling...you are going to need another person to drive the point home to her.
Also, you can say to her that it's widely known that when a spouse accuses the other of cheating that 99% of the time it's the accuser that is cheating. Then ask her if she has anything she'd like to share with you...
You could show her this post too...
Good luck.
My ex-wife did that sometimes. I eventually did cheat on her about 15 years into the marriage, but the other 20 years of accusations were bizarre. I considered it abusive.
Either she's crazy - my ex was a borderline - or she's cheating on you and projecting, or both. Or you're cheating and have amnesia about it. There are no good possibilities.
If my wife told me to sleep on the couch over fear that I'm cheating, when I haven't been cheating...I'd tell her that if I sleep on the couch tonight, it will be the last time we ever sleep in the same house again. She is VERY insecure, and you are enabling her by putting up with it. Ultimately, she is afraid that you will cheat and leave, right? Well, tell her that the next time she accuses you of cheating, you are leaving. Put some consequences out there.
You've only been married for 8 months and already your life is a living hell.
You CAN function without her.
You must have known she was mistrustful before you married her... Her fears are irrational and overblown and SHE needs to get into some counselling.
Sit her down and tell her that her insecurity is damaging your relationship and that you have given her no reason to think you might be cheating on her and you expect her to get it together as you will not spend the rest of your life living with someone who cannot acknowledge their own insecurities.
The challenge is that there's really nothing you can do but continue to bring your best. If she continues to come at you like this you may need to consider ending it. Living with a chronically suspicious and untrusting person will really wear you down.
that is becuz she is the one cheating
She's no wife to you. In all probability she's cheating herself, and simply wants to make YOU look as bad as she is for the sake of her own conscience.
I don't think this marriage will last.
Sadly not much you can do. She is insecure about herself and as long as she is, she will feel the need to be told that you are not cheating. If I were you, I would tell her, ';Look, Ive told you over and over again Im not cheating, I have never given you any reason to think Im cheating nor will I ever. If you can not trust in me and our relationship, then you need to help or move out!';....
I had the same issue several years ago. I simply told her to shut the phuck up until she had some proof or I would dump her.( BTW I meant it ! )
That was 7 or 8 years ago , no proof and not a peep out of her since ( about cheating anyway )
I have been in kind of the same situation. kinda.
I work 8am-4pm, my husband works 4am-11am.
I sadly sounded like her, same searches too. I even came home on my lunch hour to see what he was doing.
What worked is that work together on solution.
What worked for us.
We both get up early he gets up at 3am, I get up at 5am.
On his days off we both sleep in. If I work I wake up at 7am instead to get more hours sleeping with him.
He takes a nap if he needs to after work.
After I'm done with work, we spend time together, talk, and take walks (taking walks is the best we really it to just enjoy each other and talk about any problems or just talk)
And we both go to bed around 8:30pm - 9pm.
I think the key is that we both go to bed together.
Try something that works for the both of you.
Tell you you want to exchange phone pin, email password ... etc in order to proof to her that you didn't cheat. If she ever have question, ask you instead of computer, because you will know the true instead of the computer.
Focus on solving her suspicious mind. Whatever she want to know, tell her.
Recently, I got a promotion at work, changing my hours to 4am to 1230 pm, this means I would sleep when she is at work, and she sleeps when I'm at work. I don't know if anyone here has ever had a schedule like this, but I find it very difficult to sleep at 3 in the afternoon. So, sometimes I cant sleep till about 8 or 9 at night. She comes home, wondering why I'm still sleeping and when I tell her I couldn't sleep, she automatically assumes I'm cheating on her. I found multiple searches in my browser history of ';How to catch your husband cheating'; and ';How to tell if your husband is cheating';. She makes me sleep on the couch cause she is so angry and suspicious.
I know some of these answers will be, ';sit her down, tell her you love her and only her, and reassure her of this'; Trust me, I've tried this and much much more. I understand she was cheated on in the past and I acknowledge this an have taken this into consideration, but every little thing I do seems to be suspicious to her. If I get a call from a wrong number, she thinks I'm cheating, If someone texts me by mistake, she thinks I'm cheating. I just can't take it. She is treating me like I am a lying cheating bastard and I don't deserve this. I am 99.99% positive she is not cheating on me. I don't want to separate with her cause I couldn't function with out her, but I just can't take it anymore. She is making me suffer for her mistrusting nature.
What the hell do I do?My Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
Well, she needs Psychiatric help. She is insecure, and without help there is not much hope. good luckMy Wife Will Not Stop Accusing Me of Cheating!?
My wife sometimes accuses me, but I deflect, deflect. She's usually way off -- for example, she'll think I'm cheating with the Latina clerk at work when in reality I more so enjoy the blond. She totally doesn't know my tastes!
Here's some options:
Marital counseling...you are going to need another person to drive the point home to her.
Also, you can say to her that it's widely known that when a spouse accuses the other of cheating that 99% of the time it's the accuser that is cheating. Then ask her if she has anything she'd like to share with you...
You could show her this post too...
Good luck.
My ex-wife did that sometimes. I eventually did cheat on her about 15 years into the marriage, but the other 20 years of accusations were bizarre. I considered it abusive.
Either she's crazy - my ex was a borderline - or she's cheating on you and projecting, or both. Or you're cheating and have amnesia about it. There are no good possibilities.
If my wife told me to sleep on the couch over fear that I'm cheating, when I haven't been cheating...I'd tell her that if I sleep on the couch tonight, it will be the last time we ever sleep in the same house again. She is VERY insecure, and you are enabling her by putting up with it. Ultimately, she is afraid that you will cheat and leave, right? Well, tell her that the next time she accuses you of cheating, you are leaving. Put some consequences out there.
You've only been married for 8 months and already your life is a living hell.
You CAN function without her.
You must have known she was mistrustful before you married her... Her fears are irrational and overblown and SHE needs to get into some counselling.
Sit her down and tell her that her insecurity is damaging your relationship and that you have given her no reason to think you might be cheating on her and you expect her to get it together as you will not spend the rest of your life living with someone who cannot acknowledge their own insecurities.
The challenge is that there's really nothing you can do but continue to bring your best. If she continues to come at you like this you may need to consider ending it. Living with a chronically suspicious and untrusting person will really wear you down.
that is becuz she is the one cheating
She's no wife to you. In all probability she's cheating herself, and simply wants to make YOU look as bad as she is for the sake of her own conscience.
I don't think this marriage will last.
Sadly not much you can do. She is insecure about herself and as long as she is, she will feel the need to be told that you are not cheating. If I were you, I would tell her, ';Look, Ive told you over and over again Im not cheating, I have never given you any reason to think Im cheating nor will I ever. If you can not trust in me and our relationship, then you need to help or move out!';....
I had the same issue several years ago. I simply told her to shut the phuck up until she had some proof or I would dump her.( BTW I meant it ! )
That was 7 or 8 years ago , no proof and not a peep out of her since ( about cheating anyway )
I have been in kind of the same situation. kinda.
I work 8am-4pm, my husband works 4am-11am.
I sadly sounded like her, same searches too. I even came home on my lunch hour to see what he was doing.
What worked is that work together on solution.
What worked for us.
We both get up early he gets up at 3am, I get up at 5am.
On his days off we both sleep in. If I work I wake up at 7am instead to get more hours sleeping with him.
He takes a nap if he needs to after work.
After I'm done with work, we spend time together, talk, and take walks (taking walks is the best we really it to just enjoy each other and talk about any problems or just talk)
And we both go to bed around 8:30pm - 9pm.
I think the key is that we both go to bed together.
Try something that works for the both of you.
Tell you you want to exchange phone pin, email password ... etc in order to proof to her that you didn't cheat. If she ever have question, ask you instead of computer, because you will know the true instead of the computer.
Focus on solving her suspicious mind. Whatever she want to know, tell her.
How has portraiture changed over time?
im trying to do my art assignment and i need to know about the role of portraiture. I could also use some other info about portraiture :) thanksHow has portraiture changed over time?
srry idk google it! :)what in your opinion is bes c ide and Homemade Duvet Cover
srry idk google it! :)
Why does my Myspace homepage just show where I type in my status and the stream?
It just shows where I type in my status where it says ';what do you want to share?'; and everyones statuses. How do I change it back to the original bcuz when my friend logged on myspace in the same computer it showed hers as the normal homepage.Why does my Myspace homepage just show where I type in my status and the stream?
you cant change it back to the old homepage
keep in mind that myspace rolls out changes like this based on a person's friend id, so not everyone receives the updates all at the same time
you cant change it back to the old homepage
keep in mind that myspace rolls out changes like this based on a person's friend id, so not everyone receives the updates all at the same time
My iPod song won't change?
When I play a song on my iPod touch, when the song ends it starts over instead of going to the next song so I have to manually change it. How can I fix this?
Thankyou.My iPod song won't change?
touch on that round thing once.. which is below the go back arrow.. below the song time... hope u get that.. ur song will not repeat..n will go to d nxt song once finished playing ur current song...
Thankyou.My iPod song won't change?
touch on that round thing once.. which is below the go back arrow.. below the song time... hope u get that.. ur song will not repeat..n will go to d nxt song once finished playing ur current song...
How do I put salt in my aquarium?
I'm pretty sure my goldfish is suffering from nitrite poisoning, so I did a large water change earlier today and he seems to be a little better.
I know adding salt can help with nitrite poisoning, so how do I add some? I know you can't use salt with iodide, but would rock or kosher salt work? Thanks.How do I put salt in my aquarium?
Yes, kosher salt is generally safe. You would mix it in a separate cup and add the dissolved salt to the tank, mixing thoroughly. Add about 1 tablespoon or less per gallon of water. Aeration or additional surface water movement should be added to provide plenty of dissolved oxygen in the tank.
I know adding salt can help with nitrite poisoning, so how do I add some? I know you can't use salt with iodide, but would rock or kosher salt work? Thanks.How do I put salt in my aquarium?
Yes, kosher salt is generally safe. You would mix it in a separate cup and add the dissolved salt to the tank, mixing thoroughly. Add about 1 tablespoon or less per gallon of water. Aeration or additional surface water movement should be added to provide plenty of dissolved oxygen in the tank.
I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
i am having the aspiration abortion in a couple of days and i wanted to know what was the after care process like as far as cramping bleeding how long did you cramp and bleed for how you felt on the inside.when you went back for the check up were you pretty much healed and was done cramping and bleeding just to get maybe a general idea of what it is like i know everyone is different but i would like to hear from people who have had this done thank you.
PS I DONT NEED TO HEAR ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ITS FINAL AND IF YOU DISAGREE KEEP IT TO YOURSELF BECAUSE IM NOT CHANGING MY MIND THANKSI wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
Drink lots of fluids
Stay off work for a few days if you can
Take vitamins, eat healthy food, and try to sleep
Take the antibiotics prescribed by your doctor right away, and for the full amount of days prescribed!
No exercise for two weeks
No swimming or tub baths for 2 weeks
Don't lift anything over 15 pounds for two weeks, don't use ANYTHING vaginally for 2-4 weeks - no sex, no tampons, no douches.
You can ovulate as soon as two weeks after an abortion, which means yes, you could get pregnant again within two weeks after an abortion!
After the 2-4 weeks is over, you should NOT have sex again unless you feel physically recovered, and have discussed with your partner what you want to do if an unplanned pregnancy occurs again. Do NOT let yourself be pressured into having sex again before you are physically and emotionally ready, and have had a serious discussion about the course of action for future unplanned pregnancies. You can get pregnant as soon as two weeks after an abortion! Your body normally will go back to it's regular cycle, and release an egg (ovulation) at 2 weeks post-ab. So once you decide you are ready to resume sexual intercourse again, make sure you are using birth control right away. As many of us know, birth control is NOT 100% effective. So it's very important that you don't have sex again until you are healed physically and emotionally, and you have a clear consensus on what will happen if you become unexpectedly pregnant again.
For women who had an abortion for maternal health reasons, or for a poor prenatal diagnosis, consult your doctor about birth control and future pregnancies.
If you were 9 or more weeks along in the pregnancy, it is possible that you may have trouble with milk, or a milky fluid leaking from your breasts after the abortion. The further along you were, the higher the chance of having your 'milk come in'. This can be upsetting, but it won't last for long. It's a normal effect of the hormones that your body releases when you are no longer pregnant. These hormones make your body start to produce milk, whenever a pregnancy is ended. Your breasts may feel sore, tight, swollen, and will leak out droplets of clear to whitish fluid. At times the milk may 'let down', and a substantial amount of liquid may come out. To help with this stage, wear a well-fitting/snug bra, and try avoid stimulation of your breasts or nipples. Wear the bra 24 hours a day until your milk dries up. It can take one to four weeks for the milk to dry up. It will not be as painful as it originally feels when the milk first comes in - as the milk is not 'used' the pressure on the milk ducts will cause the milk to 'dry up'. Keep wearing that snug-fitting bra, and take tylenol for the soreness, and this will subside. If you develop a fever, or extreme tenderness in either of your breasts, consult a doctor - there is also a condition where your milk glands can get infected, and this will need to be treated with antibiotics. (This is a rare complication).I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
I don't know. Why the hell are you asking me?
I dunno I am keeping my baby instead of killing it
I had an abortion about 5 days ago.
The first three days theres little to no bleeding because it takes a bit for your body to realize that you are no longer pregnent. My bleeding is getting heavier now and should continue for a week or two.
Sometimes i get severe cramps, but nothing too horrible.
Good luck and dont listen to anyone here who is going on about pro life and such.
I hope this helped, and dont worry too much, everything will be fine. :)
if you want to go to a pro choice site, i would recommned www.imnotsorry.net
I had one done and I was in a lot of pain the day of, aftewards cramping really bad for an entire day, but the following day I was totally back to normal and bleeding like a light period. Normal activities resumed and then I went to a party that weekend and everything was totally normal. Just make sure you have help for the first day. I threw up and cramped (like labor cramps) that first whole day.
what is an aspiration abortion?
and i bled a lot-- i throw up the first time... and the cramping really hurts.. its like period cramping. but twice as painful.. im not sure how long i bled for.. it was a few years ago.. i was actually thinking about it last night.. weirdly enough.. lol.. but i never went for a check up afterwards.. i just stayed n the house for weeks.. (it was n the summer)
Here is a great link about what happens after abortion. It should give you some answers.
http://abortionincanada.ca/health/physic…
You can also read testimonies by a thousand women who had abortions in the past:
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
Sometimes, regret, grief and guilt come years after the fact, but they fall on you like a ton of bricks. I heard such a live testimony which I will never forget, by a woman who described herself at first like ';the perfect Planned Parenthood success story';. One thing I can absolutely guarantee is that your abortion is an experience you will never forget. Some described it as ';having life sucked out of you';, which it literally is since you are now carrying life. This sense of emptiness often leads to years of depression. So many women complained that nobody warned them about what would happen to them after abortion. All these post-abortive women are there to warn you.
If you want real stories by real women about their real abortions, then I can only agree with the poster above me who linked to Silent No More because they will tell you exactly what the abortion, and its aftermath, was like: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
It isn't ';negative'; for people to urge you to think again. Your child is precious and loved by more people than you know, even people you aren't aware of. S/he has a future husband or wife, children, friends, colleagues in the future; all those people need your child to be alive. That is something we genuinely care about; it is not negative. It's more positive, and more loving toward you, than you realize.
For example, your abortionist will not tell you, ';Okay, by having this abortion you're consenting to put yourself at a 40% increased risk of a fatal form of breast cancer.'; Yet, that is the ugly truth, and you don't have to take my word for it. See this study: http://www.abortionbreastcancer.com/pres…
You're talking about how the abortion will be for *you*, how *you* will feel after it, yet are you aware of what happens to the child during an aspiration abortion? http://www.haltonprolife.com/abortion-me…
Even without knowing you, I don't want to believe that you could intentionally do that to your own child. You are a mother, whether you like it or not, and you are this child's primary guardian! A mother nourishes, protects, guards, guides, teaches, yet abortion is the opposite of everything womanly, tender or affectionate.
I know you said your mind is made up. I don't know why you're having an abortion, but I do know that it won't bring you the happiness, relief or freedom you think it will bring you. It can't. You can't hurt someone and expect to be happy and free. I don't know if you were raped, if you need treatment for a disease, or whatever, but I do know that taking a life--your child's life--is not the answer.
A lot of women who have abortions say that their immediate reaction was relief. Over time, that relief wore away and turned into bitterness, denial, even anger at others who reminded them of it in one way or another. Slowly, sometimes over the course of decades, the bitterness turned to regret and despair. Women who do not come to regret their abortions continue to live bitter and unhappy lives; they seem normal on the outside and even claim to be just fine with their abortions, but they are bitter and lost. I've encountered some such women, and they are very sad inside. Unfortunately, they don't think they can or should face it or discuss it, so they get furious with others who try to help them face their past abortions. And then there are others--a handful by comparison--who truly do not care about the abortion and are totally hardened by it. But is that what a woman ought to be?
The very fact that you are yelling on here at anyone who disagrees with you shows that you are already becoming that kind of woman, but you CAN change your mind and stop that process.
It's humanly impossible to take an innocent life and still continue to be happy and fulfilled. It's not possible. Because we are all connected to one another and because we are not in charge of who lives and who dies, when we take a human life, we hurt not only that person, but our very selves.
All this isn't just a ';personal opinion.'; An opinion would be saying that I think a Toyota is better than a Honda. All of us, whatever our religious beliefs or lack thereof, have written on our hearts from the time we are created that it is wrong to hurt and kill another person. Over time, we may chisel away at that and pretend not to know that anymore, but it's still true. Aborting your baby is seriously wrong, and there will be negative consequences in your life because you are hurting another person. Even if you have good intentions, such as trying to spare the child some pain, you are still hurting your child in the worst and most permanent way.
And if I didn't really care about you as a mother myself, I wouldn't bother saying these things to you, things you may be very upset to hear because they are true. Warning you isn't ';negative';; it's doing the truly thoughtful thing, because MOST women who regret their abortions say, ';No one told me what it would really be like.';
You need loving help for your baby so that this problem can be solved and no one is hurt. Don't you want to know that there is help for you? Wouldn't you much rather give this person life than not? There are people who can help you with this, with everything. They will help you find a loving adoptive family or help you keep this baby. There are volunteers who do everything for mothers in need, they are so desperate to help. You have no idea how much comfort and encouragment, not to mention practical help, they will give you. They can help with medical care, housing, a job, getting supplies for the baby, for no cost at all. For free, they will either relieve you of your baby and give him/her to someone who loves him/her, or help you keep your child. Here:
http://www.birthright.org/htmpages/locat…
http://www.standupgirl.com/index.php?opt…
Won't you call this number 1-800-550-4900 and talk to someone about this? Doesn't your child deserve that? Let someone help you and your baby.
PS I DONT NEED TO HEAR ANY NEGATIVE COMMENTS ABOUT THIS ITS FINAL AND IF YOU DISAGREE KEEP IT TO YOURSELF BECAUSE IM NOT CHANGING MY MIND THANKSI wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
Drink lots of fluids
Stay off work for a few days if you can
Take vitamins, eat healthy food, and try to sleep
Take the antibiotics prescribed by your doctor right away, and for the full amount of days prescribed!
No exercise for two weeks
No swimming or tub baths for 2 weeks
Don't lift anything over 15 pounds for two weeks, don't use ANYTHING vaginally for 2-4 weeks - no sex, no tampons, no douches.
You can ovulate as soon as two weeks after an abortion, which means yes, you could get pregnant again within two weeks after an abortion!
After the 2-4 weeks is over, you should NOT have sex again unless you feel physically recovered, and have discussed with your partner what you want to do if an unplanned pregnancy occurs again. Do NOT let yourself be pressured into having sex again before you are physically and emotionally ready, and have had a serious discussion about the course of action for future unplanned pregnancies. You can get pregnant as soon as two weeks after an abortion! Your body normally will go back to it's regular cycle, and release an egg (ovulation) at 2 weeks post-ab. So once you decide you are ready to resume sexual intercourse again, make sure you are using birth control right away. As many of us know, birth control is NOT 100% effective. So it's very important that you don't have sex again until you are healed physically and emotionally, and you have a clear consensus on what will happen if you become unexpectedly pregnant again.
For women who had an abortion for maternal health reasons, or for a poor prenatal diagnosis, consult your doctor about birth control and future pregnancies.
If you were 9 or more weeks along in the pregnancy, it is possible that you may have trouble with milk, or a milky fluid leaking from your breasts after the abortion. The further along you were, the higher the chance of having your 'milk come in'. This can be upsetting, but it won't last for long. It's a normal effect of the hormones that your body releases when you are no longer pregnant. These hormones make your body start to produce milk, whenever a pregnancy is ended. Your breasts may feel sore, tight, swollen, and will leak out droplets of clear to whitish fluid. At times the milk may 'let down', and a substantial amount of liquid may come out. To help with this stage, wear a well-fitting/snug bra, and try avoid stimulation of your breasts or nipples. Wear the bra 24 hours a day until your milk dries up. It can take one to four weeks for the milk to dry up. It will not be as painful as it originally feels when the milk first comes in - as the milk is not 'used' the pressure on the milk ducts will cause the milk to 'dry up'. Keep wearing that snug-fitting bra, and take tylenol for the soreness, and this will subside. If you develop a fever, or extreme tenderness in either of your breasts, consult a doctor - there is also a condition where your milk glands can get infected, and this will need to be treated with antibiotics. (This is a rare complication).I wanted to know how is the recovery process for abortion?
I don't know. Why the hell are you asking me?
I dunno I am keeping my baby instead of killing it
I had an abortion about 5 days ago.
The first three days theres little to no bleeding because it takes a bit for your body to realize that you are no longer pregnent. My bleeding is getting heavier now and should continue for a week or two.
Sometimes i get severe cramps, but nothing too horrible.
Good luck and dont listen to anyone here who is going on about pro life and such.
I hope this helped, and dont worry too much, everything will be fine. :)
if you want to go to a pro choice site, i would recommned www.imnotsorry.net
I had one done and I was in a lot of pain the day of, aftewards cramping really bad for an entire day, but the following day I was totally back to normal and bleeding like a light period. Normal activities resumed and then I went to a party that weekend and everything was totally normal. Just make sure you have help for the first day. I threw up and cramped (like labor cramps) that first whole day.
what is an aspiration abortion?
and i bled a lot-- i throw up the first time... and the cramping really hurts.. its like period cramping. but twice as painful.. im not sure how long i bled for.. it was a few years ago.. i was actually thinking about it last night.. weirdly enough.. lol.. but i never went for a check up afterwards.. i just stayed n the house for weeks.. (it was n the summer)
Here is a great link about what happens after abortion. It should give you some answers.
http://abortionincanada.ca/health/physic…
You can also read testimonies by a thousand women who had abortions in the past:
http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
Sometimes, regret, grief and guilt come years after the fact, but they fall on you like a ton of bricks. I heard such a live testimony which I will never forget, by a woman who described herself at first like ';the perfect Planned Parenthood success story';. One thing I can absolutely guarantee is that your abortion is an experience you will never forget. Some described it as ';having life sucked out of you';, which it literally is since you are now carrying life. This sense of emptiness often leads to years of depression. So many women complained that nobody warned them about what would happen to them after abortion. All these post-abortive women are there to warn you.
If you want real stories by real women about their real abortions, then I can only agree with the poster above me who linked to Silent No More because they will tell you exactly what the abortion, and its aftermath, was like: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/tes…
It isn't ';negative'; for people to urge you to think again. Your child is precious and loved by more people than you know, even people you aren't aware of. S/he has a future husband or wife, children, friends, colleagues in the future; all those people need your child to be alive. That is something we genuinely care about; it is not negative. It's more positive, and more loving toward you, than you realize.
For example, your abortionist will not tell you, ';Okay, by having this abortion you're consenting to put yourself at a 40% increased risk of a fatal form of breast cancer.'; Yet, that is the ugly truth, and you don't have to take my word for it. See this study: http://www.abortionbreastcancer.com/pres…
You're talking about how the abortion will be for *you*, how *you* will feel after it, yet are you aware of what happens to the child during an aspiration abortion? http://www.haltonprolife.com/abortion-me…
Even without knowing you, I don't want to believe that you could intentionally do that to your own child. You are a mother, whether you like it or not, and you are this child's primary guardian! A mother nourishes, protects, guards, guides, teaches, yet abortion is the opposite of everything womanly, tender or affectionate.
I know you said your mind is made up. I don't know why you're having an abortion, but I do know that it won't bring you the happiness, relief or freedom you think it will bring you. It can't. You can't hurt someone and expect to be happy and free. I don't know if you were raped, if you need treatment for a disease, or whatever, but I do know that taking a life--your child's life--is not the answer.
A lot of women who have abortions say that their immediate reaction was relief. Over time, that relief wore away and turned into bitterness, denial, even anger at others who reminded them of it in one way or another. Slowly, sometimes over the course of decades, the bitterness turned to regret and despair. Women who do not come to regret their abortions continue to live bitter and unhappy lives; they seem normal on the outside and even claim to be just fine with their abortions, but they are bitter and lost. I've encountered some such women, and they are very sad inside. Unfortunately, they don't think they can or should face it or discuss it, so they get furious with others who try to help them face their past abortions. And then there are others--a handful by comparison--who truly do not care about the abortion and are totally hardened by it. But is that what a woman ought to be?
The very fact that you are yelling on here at anyone who disagrees with you shows that you are already becoming that kind of woman, but you CAN change your mind and stop that process.
It's humanly impossible to take an innocent life and still continue to be happy and fulfilled. It's not possible. Because we are all connected to one another and because we are not in charge of who lives and who dies, when we take a human life, we hurt not only that person, but our very selves.
All this isn't just a ';personal opinion.'; An opinion would be saying that I think a Toyota is better than a Honda. All of us, whatever our religious beliefs or lack thereof, have written on our hearts from the time we are created that it is wrong to hurt and kill another person. Over time, we may chisel away at that and pretend not to know that anymore, but it's still true. Aborting your baby is seriously wrong, and there will be negative consequences in your life because you are hurting another person. Even if you have good intentions, such as trying to spare the child some pain, you are still hurting your child in the worst and most permanent way.
And if I didn't really care about you as a mother myself, I wouldn't bother saying these things to you, things you may be very upset to hear because they are true. Warning you isn't ';negative';; it's doing the truly thoughtful thing, because MOST women who regret their abortions say, ';No one told me what it would really be like.';
You need loving help for your baby so that this problem can be solved and no one is hurt. Don't you want to know that there is help for you? Wouldn't you much rather give this person life than not? There are people who can help you with this, with everything. They will help you find a loving adoptive family or help you keep this baby. There are volunteers who do everything for mothers in need, they are so desperate to help. You have no idea how much comfort and encouragment, not to mention practical help, they will give you. They can help with medical care, housing, a job, getting supplies for the baby, for no cost at all. For free, they will either relieve you of your baby and give him/her to someone who loves him/her, or help you keep your child. Here:
http://www.birthright.org/htmpages/locat…
http://www.standupgirl.com/index.php?opt…
Won't you call this number 1-800-550-4900 and talk to someone about this? Doesn't your child deserve that? Let someone help you and your baby.
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