Im a b*tch. I really wanna change how do i change?

Ive tried so many times and i just keep being a b*tch. I cant stand how mean im being to people, like recently i wrote awful stuff about my friends in a park. i feel really bad and its really getting me down. help? :)Im a b*tch. I really wanna change how do i change?
Firstly have some willpower! You've got to have the desire to change if you really want to.

Basically just think before you do anything, for example, say your friends are talking negatively about someone you know then before you jump right in with the b*tchy comments, stop and think about what you're doing. How would you feel if someone was talking about you behind your back? hurt? betrayed? even if you really don't like the person, just say nothing at all, better yet, remove yourself from the situation and people that will encourage or temp you to be b*tchy.

That's my number one advice, don't gossip being peoples back as no one will be able to trust you and what you say.

Secondly try and put yourself in someone else shoes [yes i know i sound cheesy] The next time you might pick on someone or think negatively towards a person because of what they wear, or how they speak or what they like doing then try and think from a different view point - okay maybe that girl reads a lot and sits alone at lunch but maybe that's because she's scared to make friends or she's been picked on in the past.

That's my advice - just stop and think for a second before you do anything that potentially could be hurtful to someone other than yourself and your friends.

It may be hard to change but it will be worth it, making you a better person.Im a b*tch. I really wanna change how do i change?
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well, it's not that hard to be nice, y'know. Avoid gossiping and control your temper. And definitely don't be full of yourself or look down on people. Kinda common sense. :) Although it would be hard to stop being mean if you get some kind of sick enjoyment out of it. Just saying. I'm not assuming that you do, I'm just making a point. Try talking to someone, if you really think you need some advice.
Go to Church it will help you change to a good person.
Well, good for you for realizing that the way you are acting is cruel. I think you really need to think about where this attitude is coming from, and what's causing it. Are you self conscious? Are the people you grew up around like that? You need to get to the root of the problem and go from there. I used to be a huge ***** back in 6th-7th grade, but it was never my personality. I just wanted to fit in with my friends that were like that. I eventually just branched out of that ';lifestyle'; lol and soon the bitchy girls grew out of it too, and we're all still friends. We've all become extremely nice. People think of us as the ';nice people that are always there for you';, it makes you feel great. Don't try to fit in with other people if that is where this is coming from, you will find people that like you for you. Eventually with age, everything will fall into place and you'll mature from this point in time. Good luck!
stop being a ***** :)
Zanex
You are who you are time will come when you are bitched about, you'll soon get over it hopefully. :-)

Or if you listen to the bible basher's ';sow as ye reep'; lol...
If this writing you wrote about are in a journal, then that is okay. That is your place to vent. Now changing for the better, even for the better, is difficult. Set mini goals for yourself.

For example.



Goal 1-- Help someone in the hall whether I know them or not

Goal 2-- Train my mind and brain to STOP saying bad things for no reason, even as a joke.

Goal 3-- Stop retaliating. If something if said that is mean or insulting to me, stop and let it roll off. (Harder said than done, trust me!)

Goal 4-- Smile when you want to say something mean whether for a reason or not.



Etc. Set these goals one week at a time and just focus on the negative things that you want to change. Trust me, I did this. I love how I am now. I let everything roll off my back and if, when I get home, I write about it in my journal and sometimes write a letter then rip up the letter to get my aggression out. Just try to be yourself and don't become this perfect goody-goody. That is the hardest part is to still be yourself while changing the negatives and only the negatives.



I wish you luck, but I know you can do it! I did it within a semester and a summer break, I watched and listened to a lot of humbling things and then after a while I just started to realize that I needed to change, and I did. I still work at some things, of course. But you have to realize that there is ALWAYS room for improvement.
Well you can start by thinking less of yourself. You know, that you are not important. Only equal to everyone else around you. Then, try to understand what is going on and why it is going on before getting mad. And always try to apologize as much as you can. So even if you do get mad, people will see that you are apologetic, which it seems like you already are.
You're better than this Harley. Open your mind, and heart. Do a few things for charity and it will make u feel better inside... you already are on the right track, because you have admitted your problem.



Before you say or do something just think about how you can solve the situation in a better way. Exercises that calm you down and google things that build your patience. Often something like learning an instrument can help. It starts from inside you though.



Bon chance!
The first thing that you need to do is to find out why are you a b*tch. Is there something going on in your life that you are not happy about? If the answer is yes, then it is entirely up to you to solve it. Sometimes, things in life don't go the way that we want them to and it could be a reason why you are behaving this way. Dig deep inside your soul and find out what is going on in your life that you are not happy about. The sooner you address the problem, the sooner you can fix it so you can become a better person for yourself. You can also do a hobby that interests you to make your life more fullfilling such as taking a yoga class, a pottery class, dance lessons, whatever suits your fancy. You can help out your community by volunteering in a homeless shelter, donating your time to a local charity, etc. Another option for you is to talk to a therapist about your situation if you are comfortable doing so. The therapist might give you an insight as to why you are behaving this way. Do whatever you think is best for you so that you can change your ways and become a positive person. Good luck. :)
um woow . okay ahah i was just like you you just have have a self to self talk, like go in your room and just think of what your doing and how it would make YOU feel. When your thinking ask yourself is there anything that is bothering me? and just THINK have a good ';me time';. Then when your in a social situation like what you were doing in the park think BEFORE you SAY or WRITE anything. And say is this reallly neccessary? how would it make them feel ? or how would it make me feel if this was done to me ?



Hope I HElped
Before you do or say anything take a moment to think of the consequences of your actions. How would you feel if someone did or said what you are about to do or say to you? If you wouldn't like it they probably won't either. Are you angry about something in your life and lashing out at others? Perhaps a more gentle attitude to yourself may help you to cultivate a more gentle attitude to others. Try and bite your tongue when the bitchy thoughts pop up and squash 'em down again. Good luck.
Be nicer to people, hang with all types of people
stop being mean!! develop some empathy and realise other people have feelings and understand how they are guna feel before you do somthing its realy not hard but barly anyone does it so i give you credit for trying i hope you feel better and hope i helped :) x
1. why do you think your a *****?

2. if you wrote mean stuff why not erase it?

3. i agree talk to all sorts of people keep your mind open, look threw all religions find some beliefs that can help you some spirtual enlightment to say

4. you can also try asking why your a ***** and why your saying such mean things about it,maybe it could be a part of a mental illness?

5. try looking at what you want to do find fun things to do maybe it will make you a happier person thus making you nicer to people!

6. also i turn into a ***** when i don't eat right try making sure you do!